Ladies, have you ever dated a man that was more attractive than you? (dating, married)
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I'm going to do a 2 part series on this(both genders) but I'm starting out with the women first. Simple question to any on CD, have you ever dated a man that was objectively speaking much more attractive than you are? And if so how did that make you feel in general? Were you intimidated, did you have a feeling he was out of your league? I ask this because some women who say they yes, have said they felt insecure alot of the time and had a feeling of "it's too good to be true". Like they were just waiting for the moment he got bored or something and never talked to her again.
For the record, it's not sex with a man who was more attractive than you, it's dating/Relationship. I'm interested in hearing responses.
He looked like a Greek God. Once I got to know him it wasn't too big of a deal. He had a down to earth personality. But, when he first approached me I was so busy questioning how somebody that handsome could exist, let alone be interested in me, that I couldn't think straight. I even stuttered.
I voted no, but it's probably subjective. None of the men I've ever dated are what, in my mind's eye, reflects what a physically handsome man would be. I have this David Tennant look in my head when I think good looking. Most of the men I've dated are pretty much average in the looks department--then again, so am I (although, at the risk of sounding vain every guy I've dated pours on the the "you are so beautiful, I can't believe you are dating me," flattery. I am never sure if I should believe them or not because it's not like I have men knocking at my door. I think maybe they say it because they think I like to hear it--and it's true. I like it when a man calls me pretty). I should note that the longer I stay with a man, the better looking he seems to me. I can't explain why that is, but it is a quirk about me.
I have dated men who were more attractive than me. No problem. It is all about one's own self esteem. I never felt that I didn't deserve a man because of his looks.
The most handsome man in the world looks like sh*t when he starts to treat me like I dont deserve to be treated.
On the other hand, a not so attractive man is really handsome to my eyes when he shows that he loves me and that I am important to him.
I'm going to do a 2 part series on this(both genders) but I'm starting out with the women first. Simple question to any on CD, have you ever dated a man that was objectively speaking much more attractive than you are? And if so how did that make you feel in general? Were you intimidated, did you have a feeling he was out of your league? I ask this because some women who say they yes, have said they felt insecure alot of the time and had a feeling of "it's too good to be true". Like they were just waiting for the moment he got bored or something and never talked to her again.
For the record, it's not sex with a man who was more attractive than you, it's dating/Relationship. I'm interested in hearing responses.
That's why I usually only go for guys who are below my league. Most of the time, my friends say, I could do better.
I just got hit on by a fantastic looking guy, way above my league and I wondered why. It made me so suspicious, I couldn't enjoy his attention. Turns out, he is married. Of course. Ugh.
I was dating a very handsome, tall, half Native for a while. So him with 6'4" and me with almost 6', walking down the street, we got alot of attention. Loved it.
Yes, once in college. He was more attractive than 99.9999% of people out there. He was a professional male model and made a good career of it. He was tall, lean, with a beautiful chiseled face/cheekbones, full lips, gorgeous green eyes, thick hair. He did lots of print ads, including underwear.
I don't have an ounce of insecurity in me (am probably overly confident), so insecurity was never a problem. The biggest problem was that, while he was one of the most physically beautiful men on the planet, he didn't have much going on upstairs. It was hard to have an in-depth conversation with him. I am not stereotyping male models as dumb and shallow, but he certainly was.
For him, everything evolved around his looks (and not his brain)- constantly working out, tanning, obsessive healthy eating (regimented vitamins/shakes, etc.), regimented sleep schedule, constantly looking in the mirror, elaborate beauty regimes (e.g. body oils/masks, waxing, carrying a personal humidifier to every location so his skin could stay moist, etc.). I had never met a man who spent so much money/time on his looks, though the results were outstanding. Damn did he look good in pictures with me, and drew a lot of attention from my friends. I guess I was "proud" for a bit that I had snagged him (I was immature!).
I am pretty laid-back and free-spirited, so his lifestyle was not a good fit for me. It was also very hard for me to be with someone I could not converse with on a deeper level. I guess I objectified him in the beginning as I was happy just staring at him on my arm (I was immature!), but that couldn't sustain a relationship. I became bored with him after the initial effect of his looks faded. And although his body was perfect, intimacy wasn't good either.
For me, there has got to be a lot more than a visual. He taught me that I didn't want to prioritize too highly on looks.
No.
Though it depends on how you quantify "attractiveness".
If you mean better looking face, I don't think so.
If you mean better-looking body (more "fit"), then yes,
because my ex-spouse was well-muscled and had very little body fat (was in better shape than I).
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