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So do we have a general or preferable time where a man or a woman should get married? I guess the most default answer is before 30 and I am coming pretty close to it (male). Family is pressuring me to get married, but there are a few things I want to accomplish before tying the knot. (career wise, financially etc)
Is this true? will marrying late decrease my chances of finding true love? my thing is - if you have a life companion - you will need to commit 100% and I feel as if - I can't achieve that with my personal goals by starting a family/marriage.
I don't think there is any age at which you should be married. I think it's about finding the right person. That being said - I will say that the longer you wait, the more you will become set in your ways (not always true but I've seen it a lot) and it might become harder to share your life with someone else in a way that might have been easier when you were younger. Also, I don't know why people think you can only do one thing at a time - focus on your career OR your love life. Ideally, the right person for you will enhance your life making EVERYTHING in your life easier and more successful. I got married at 28, my husband was 30. His career has taken off during our relationship.
There is no right age. Pressure from peers or family should not be a factor at all.
There can be a right or wrong time, but it is based on your wants, needs, desires, and whether you have found a great match you have full confidence in, and who has full confidence in you, and where both of you are on the same page with life goals, direction, how to achieve them, etc.
Studies show that the older you are when you first marry dramatically decreases the likelihood of divorce.
I will second Dew, finding and being with the right person will enhance the other areas of your life. Not detract from them. The relationship should basically raise all boats.
Bottom line: don't let people put undue pressure on you to get married. It doesn't matter who that person is, family, friends, your SO or a 70 year old man in a bear suit hitting on a women.
So do we have a general or preferable time where a man or a woman should get married?
will marrying late decrease my chances of finding true love?
First question is when you meet the right person.
Second question, If you get married early and it isn't true love and you aren't willing to get divorced, then the chances of finding true love are low. The more relationships you enter, the higher the probability you will find true love.
No. Something about the number 30 puts people into a tizzy about marriage and babies. Don't do things because of the number assigned to your life. I knew so many people in their 20's who paniced because of 30 - oh 30 means marriage and babies, blah blah. Then 30 came and they realized they weren't ready. 30 isn't as old as you think. 30 doesn't mean what you think it does, necessarily. You still have so much time. Don't pressure yourself with that deadline, it's ridiculous and doesn't mean anything if that's not what you really want at that time.
It's good to have goals It's also good to realize that you can accomplish your goals with or without someone else in your life. I've definitely accomplished goals post-wedding day! I went to grad school, made a career change, traveled the world, my husband has gotten some really big promotions, etc. If anything, it's been easier doing it while married--when his career was getting crazy busy, I was able to take care of household stuff in the evenings, and when I was going to grad school and working full time, he could come home and walk the dog or run errands. Vacations are easier to take with two incomes and a built in travel buddy, and being on the same page financially from the beginning has meant that we've been able to accomplish financial goals together.
Don't get married before you're ready, but I don't know where the idea that life stops after "I do" comes from.
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It's also good to realize that you can accomplish your goals with or without someone else in your life. I've definitely accomplished goals post-wedding day! I went to grad school, made a career change, traveled the world, my husband has gotten some really big promotions, etc. If anything, it's been easier doing it while married--when his career was getting crazy busy, I was able to take care of household stuff in the evenings, and when I was going to grad school and working full time, he could come home and walk the dog or run errands. Vacations are easier to take with two incomes and a built in travel buddy, and being on the same page financially from the beginning has meant that we've been able to accomplish financial goals together.
