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@ lily yes you can help, keep finding things about your sister in-law that you like or respect(other then looks lol) and tell her. Maybe with enough times and enough ppl saying things she will believe. Yes looks are important for attraction.
How significant are looks to you, as a part of your attraction to your partner? Is it mainly the shape of their body that makes you want to have sex with them, or does other stuff play a big role? If so, what? And how much of a role?
I am coming up to 19 years of marriage this November. I am still attracted to my husband (as he is to me). Sure, we have gained weight, gotten older, and have had our fair share of wear and tear. But I think as one goes through life together (raising kids, relatives passing away and a myriad of other life events), it's really the bond, the affection, mutual interests, and having a great sense of humor that keeps our attraction to one another alive.
How significant are looks to you, as a part of your attraction to your partner? Is it mainly the shape of their body that makes you want to have sex with them, or does other stuff play a big role? If so, what? And how much of a role?
I'm in a bad situation in that I am extremely attracted to my wife, and very much would enjoy sex with her. It's her body and just the fact that I have strong feelings for her. However, we are in a bad relationship that should be ended, and sex is no longer part of our lives.
How significant are looks to you, as a part of your attraction to your partner? Is it mainly the shape of their body that makes you want to have sex with them, or does other stuff play a big role? If so, what? And how much of a role?
I've been married for 21 years.
To be honest, I am still attracted to his looks/body, but it's his "energy" and "warmth" that make me want to have sex. It's kind of hard to explain. He's gained weight over the years (as have I), but that hasn't made the slightest difference. I can appreciate him looking better in his clothing, etc at a lower weight, but it doesn't really make me want him more. It's him I want, not really his body.
Sorry, but I'm answering as a married man of 5 years.
My wife is smoking hot, in just about every way imaginable (she has a little extra weight to her, so her body isn't perfect, but she's volumptuous so it more than makes up for it). Her face is nearly flawless. Her breast are large, and when she's preggers (like now) they are out of control huge. I'm a butt man and her butt is good, but not perfect. And I'm a man who likes a slender body (petite over tittes is my motto) and she's not slender, but not fat either.
Here's the problem......she doesn't love sex like I do, in fact she may not love it whatsoever, and that sucks! They can be drop-dead gorgeous, have a rock solid body, or BOTH, and in my personal experience it doesn't mean ONE IOTA if she doesn't take great pleasure in riding a man's pine cone! That, and you have to have a DEEP common bond between you two, and even if you're married, that is not always guaranteed. If you don't love every fiber of her being the sex will suffer to the degree in which you do not appreciate her, and I'd have to assume vice versa.
My advice -- to anyone who is interested in listening to it -- would be to love somebody unconditionally and share EVERY single thing with eachother, and the sex will be amazing almost regardless of how they are built or what they look like. This is obviously just my assumption, but it's based on some experience.
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How significant are looks to you, as a part of your attraction to your partner? Is it mainly the shape of their body that makes you want to have sex with them, or does other stuff play a big role? If so, what? And how much of a role?
If you marry a Porsche and end up with a Winnebago, then you're gonna have problems. Unless you also turn into a Mack Truck, then maybe not.
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