Meeting many people at online dating site, how do you know when to stop? (guys, couple)
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I've been meeting quite a few people through an online dating site and have gone on quite a few first dates. All of the guys I've met have been acceptable so far, and perhaps if I wasn't online and didn't have the chance to meet even more guys, I might be happy with just picking one of these guys and dating him exclusively.
So my question is, how will I know when I find the "right" person, because in their own ways, all of these guys seem like they could be the right person?
I've been meeting quite a few people through an online dating site and have gone on quite a few first dates. All of the guys I've met have been acceptable so far, and perhaps if I wasn't online and didn't have the chance to meet even more guys, I might be happy with just picking one of these guys and dating him exclusively.
So my question is, how will I know when I find the "right" person, because in their own ways, all of these guys seem like they could be the right person?
Only you can determine who the "right" person is.
But what will help is having some sort of criteria that your partner must have. You should also list the negotiables, non-negotiables/dealbreakers as well. This will help you narrow down the list.
Well, I have a list of 25 things, but, that's kind of a lot right? So I'm wondering if I should not take a guy seriously until he meets all 25 or if that's asking too much.
Well, I have a list of 25 things, but, that's kind of a lot right? So I'm wondering if I should not take a guy seriously until he meets all 25 or if that's asking too much.
I guess that would depend on the 25 things.
That seems ridiculous though.
But what seems ridiculous to me may work fine for you.
A guy could meet all 25 of your criteria and still not be the right one. Why don't you go with your gut feeling and your sense of who clicks with you. There's something to be said for that relaxed feeling you get when you hang out with a guy who is easy to get on with.
I've been doing online dating for around 2 years on and off and haven't had a relationship of any sort come out of it. I've been on more first dates than I can remember, and very few second dates. I do think people are ultra picky when using online dating because there are hundreds of other people who might be better just waiting for you on your computer.
Regardless, I have been dating someone I met online and I'm really not interested in seeing anyone else right now. So... I guess when you feel like you don't really want to meet anyone else and want to pursue one particular person.
A guy could meet all 25 of your criteria and still not be the right one. Why don't you go with your gut feeling and your sense of who clicks with you. There's something to be said for that relaxed feeling you get when you hang out with a guy who is easy to get on with.
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "relaxed feeling". I've also heard someone else describe finding the right person as "it feels like home". Maybe that's the key feeling I should pay attention to above all others.
Wow. I live in not-giant town. There are maybe 2 or 3 guys on OKC that I would consider, in a given 6 month period. I was going to say, 'When you want a second date.'
I have nothing useful to offer for your 'embarrassment of riches' problem :/.
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