A break up is a break up, no? (wife, guy, husband)

[bebe182]

So I was seeing this guy for a bit over 2 months, and ended it with him a couple of weeks ago, we were never exclusive. I ended it with him because I caught him being dishonest with me, but there were also other things that bothered me about him, I felt he was manipulative and self-absorbed as well. We were set up by close mutual friends and that's how it all started.

Anyway a couple of days after I ended with him, he called my friend's husband (who is the mutual friend who set us up) and asked him what he had heard about us, my friend's husband replied saying nothing much othere than that his wife had mentioned to him that we had broke up, the guy's response was "well no we didn't break up cause we were never official", which I thought was a pretty jerky thing to say, who cares if we were official or not, a break up is still a break up is it not? Or was this just his ego talking because I ended it with him?

[jaypee]

Originally Posted by bebe182

Anyway a couple of days after I ended with him, he called my friend's husband (who is the mutual friend who set us up) and asked him what he had heard about us, my friend's husband replied saying nothing much othere than that his wife had mentioned to him that we had broke up, the guy's response was "well no we didn't break up cause we were never official", which I thought was a pretty jerky thing to say, who cares if we were official or not, a break up is still a break up is it not? Or was this just his ego talking because I ended it with him?

[TabulaRasa]

Why do you care? I don't mean that as flip, but it obviously wasn't a serious thing. I'm wondering whose ego is on the line, here.

If it's somebody you were never exclusive with, I'd hesitate to term it a "break up," because IMO, you weren't really together.

[Royalite]

You're not seeing him anymore. That's the point. Who cares, move on.

[DivineComedy]

I deleted a snarky post saying the same thing all the above people have said.

Who cares.

He sounds immature for doing it, you sound immature for caring about it enough to make a thread

[dragon_fly_12]

Too much drama.

[bebe182]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

Why do you care? I don't mean that as flip, but it obviously wasn't a serious thing. I'm wondering whose ego is on the line, here.

If it's somebody you were never exclusive with, I'd hesitate to term it a "break up," because IMO, you weren't really together.

We were not exclusive, but we did speak almost everyday and see each other each other at least once a week, and we were intimate, so while it was not serious I did think it was more than just a casual fling, but maybe that's just me. Either way it doesn't really matter, I think I might've just started this thread out of curiosity and boredom.

[mainebrokerman]

it could have easily been much worse- and how is this info getting back to you,,,,the guy tells his wife, and she tells you?



let it go... just be glad its over,

i know the neighborhood, talk is cheap when the story is good, and the tales grow taller on down the line

[JerZ]

It's his ego talking.

[Gabriella Geramia]

Then what are you supposed to call it if you were seeing someone but isn't anymore, regardless of whether you were exclusive or not?