post-argument: boyfriend wants to talk in person - good or bad sign?
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not trying to talk things out first, sounds to me like he is not compatible with you for the long haul.
that is essentially what arguments are (all be it not constructively). which they had plenty of according to her.
it wasn't the fact they never tried to work it out , it was the fact they just couldn't.
either way the ending was the right choice.
Last edited by rego00123; 05-06-2013 at 09:03 PM..
OP, you say your daughter likes seeing him and wants him to come over, and seeks out his attention, whether positive or negative. How is she responding to the break-up? If she is really upset about it I think I would let her know it is not her fault, but that her attitude has not helped the situation. I say this because you may find this to be a continueing problem as she gets older and you date different men. She needs to know that her attitude affect everyone around her, not just you.
Has your ex-boyfriend contacted you at all since you split up? I give him credit for at least having the decency to do it in person and not by test.
I am the OP and just was re-reading this ... you would not even believe what happened next. About 6-7 weeks after abruptly breaking up with me, he started showing up with a very young student from (I think) Thailand. He is mid-40s and she looks like she could pass off as a teenager, but might be early 20s. Everyone at first was really shocked and surprised and thought she must be someone's daughter or niece or a student he was mentoring (he's a professor), but then he would put his arm around her or hold her hand and they would gag.
She has this air of total frailty and it seems to be what is working for him (they are still together). He had a history of dating women who were age appropriate so all of this is very odd. I also learned from others that he has a history of abruptly breaking up with women when he has found someone else so I don't know if she is the reason he broke up so abruptly. I'm trying to block him out as much as I possibly can, given overlapping interests and social circles, etc.
I am the OP and just was re-reading this ... you would not even believe what happened next. About 6-7 weeks after abruptly breaking up with me, he started showing up with a very young student from (I think) Thailand. He is mid-40s and she looks like she could pass off as a teenager, but might be early 20s. Everyone at first was really shocked and surprised and thought she must be someone's daughter or niece or a student he was mentoring (he's a professor), but then he would put his arm around her or hold her hand and they would gag.
She has this air of total frailty and it seems to be what is working for him (they are still together). He had a history of dating women who were age appropriate so all of this is very odd. I also learned from others that he has a history of abruptly breaking up with women when he has found someone else so I don't know if she is the reason he broke up so abruptly. I'm trying to block him out as much as I possibly can, given overlapping interests and social circles, etc.
But my daughter is fine, very solid.
Rereading your original post I am not surprised at this outcome.
My gut reaction was, there's another woman.
Guys sometimes get easily irritated when they are trying to figure out how to break things off with someone after finding someone new.
In any case, I always appreciate an OP coming back to update their thread, so thank you
As much as it hurts, you really are better off without him. I hope you meet someone better suited to you very soon!
Face to face communication is extremely important in relationships.
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The follow up - a much younger woman
