Do you still love your ex-husband or wife? (marriage, women, children)
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Well I don't. I was on my way home and something made me think of this topic. I hear women say, "I will always love him," or "There will always be a special place for him in my heart, he is the father of my children."
I am not sure if I felt like this or not in the past, but I know I don't now. There is no place for him in my heart. I don't hate him, I just don't love him. He treated me terribly and I had to get the strength and power from within to leave him, and finally I did.
For years he still tried to control me but he doesn't anymore. For me, he is my kids father. There is no special place tucked away for him in my heart.
I always thought once you loved someone, the love would always be there no matter what, but well that isn't true for me. My love for my ex left when it dawned on me that not only did she not love me anymore, she didn't even whether I lived or died. And just like that it was gone. People around me couldn't understand it, but I just told them, the woman I loved doesn't exist anymore, and now the love is gone plain and simple.
Oh heavens no. I hate my ex. Hate her more than the devil himself.
The latest pattern here where people ask about their ex's or claim they still love them or have feelings for them or whatever... Can't people leave the past in the past or well enough alone. The threads or the idea you can be friends with or have a relationship post relationship is sick and unhealthy.
Now, I know there are sometimes children involved. In that case a level of civility is reasonable and prudent. And hopefully people can talk to one another like mature adults. Otherwise move along.
Isn't that something? It took me a little while, but when I came to the realization that he was not the person he was, or the person I married it wasn't as hard. The way he treated me has made me appreciate my SO so much, and the way he loves and cares for me.
The way life used to be has made me open my eyes to the way life should be.
Oh heavens no. I hate my ex. Hate her more than the devil himself.
The latest pattern here where people ask about their ex's or claim they still love them or have feelings for them or whatever... Can't people leave the past in the past or well enough alone. The threads or the idea you can be friends with or have a relationship post relationship is sick and unhealthy.
Now, I know there are sometimes children involved. In that case a level of civility is reasonable and prudent. And hopefully people can talk to one another like mature adults. Otherwise move along.
Well, I am civil to him, we do have 2 children. He is not my friend, he is not my pal. When we talk on the phone he wants to drag it on and tell me about his day or his week and I won't have it.
Gosh, I hate to say it, but he is like a stranger.
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While he was still alive after our divorce, my Ex and I had no communication. Our lives went on and we both learned from our mistakes and bettered our next relationships. He passed away from cancer 6 years following our divorce. RIP but honestly, he had become a stranger to me in spite of the fact we had been married 25 years.
It seems nice to hear some people are able to maintain a civil..in fact sometimes friendly..relationship with their former spouse. We never wanted that. When ours was over, it was O V E R
Well, I am civil to him, we do have 2 children. He is not my friend, he is not my pal. When we talk on the phone he wants to drag it on and tell me about his day or his week and I won't have it.
Gosh, I hate to say it, but he is like a stranger.
Isn't that something? It took me a little while, but when I came to the realization that he was not the person he was, or the person I married it wasn't as hard. The way he treated me has made me appreciate my SO so much, and the way he loves and cares for me.
The way life used to be has made me open my eyes to the way life should be.
I'll agree with this sentiment.
I can't say I still love him, but I certainly don't hate him. We were exact opposites, and fought all the time because of it. He wanted me to be someone else, and I guess in a way I wanted him to be someone else too.
If we ran into each other, I'm sure we would be cordial, and there was a time he wanted to introduce me to his new wife. Maybe because when we split we agreed to do it amicably and like adults, I don't have that bitter taste left in my mouth like others might have had in their divorce. I'm pretty thankful for that at least.
However the marriage did teach me a lot about relationships and how they should be as well. If it wasn't for that time and the subsequent hellish relationship I had after that, I wouldn't be as happy as I am with my SO now.
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