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And what is 'appropriate'? Most of the women I know 'chase' perfectly acceptable men that are at their level, but those men have ridiculous expectations and think they deserve a Victoria's Secret model for some reason. Perhaps the women aren't the ones who should lower their expectations?
Precisely. While I know plenty of men in great relationships, it seems like the perpetually single ones are the ones who think they deserve a woman waaaaaay out of their league. There are women who think the same, don't get me wrong, but I've found women are a lot looser with their standards than most men are, especially considering how much more the visual package matters to them.
I chase men who are clearly appropriate for me and so do the women I know. All have found men at the level they desire. The men I know who want women way above their standard never get them, like a former friend who was 40, obese, unemployed yet wanted a thin blonde. Years later he is still single and wonders why he can't find better. That's why when I hear women they need to settle but not men I think that person is delusional.
And what is 'appropriate'? Most of the women I know 'chase' perfectly acceptable men that are at their level, but those men have ridiculous expectations and think they deserve a Victoria's Secret model for some reason. Perhaps the women aren't the ones who should lower their expectations?
Precisely. While I know plenty of men in great relationships, it seems like the perpetually single ones are the ones who think they deserve a woman waaaaaay out of their league. There are women who think the same, don't get me wrong, but I've found women are a lot looser with their standards than most men are, especially considering how much more the visual package matters to them.
Any man you have to chase is out of your league. It really is that simple.
I chase men who are clearly appropriate for me and so do the women I know. All have found men at the level they desire. The men I know who want women way above their standard never get them, like a former friend who was 40, obese, unemployed yet wanted a thin blonde. Years later he is still single and wonders why he can't find better. That's why when I hear women they need to settle but not men I think that person is delusional.
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Any man you have to chase is out of your league. It really is that simple.
Yes, but the secret is that with enough chasing you can actually get someone out of your league, if the cards fall your way. In real life people snag partners 'out of their league' all the time. The girl who is just gonna sit there playing the role of the princess is probably going to get a lot of a 'certain type.'
I know a ton of guys who love women 10+ years older than they are, so if she's cute she probably won't have a problem, especially if she's Filipina. At least 3 of my male friends are in LTR with women 15 or more years older than they are, 2 of them own businesses and have money so they're definitely not going after the 'rich older women'. I think they just like the stability.
I also know of quite a few really happy long term relationships like this. And more power to 'em
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Well, these guys have been with these women for years and they seem pretty darn happy to me. And now men are 'secretly gay' unless they do exactly what you feel is appropriate? One of my guy friends is married to a wonderful woman 17 years older than he is and it's never been an issue. Judging by the men on this forum, many men out there aren't looking for children and have no desire to have them. This particular woman married to my friend had a hysterectomy at 20 so she was never really fertile. Considering all women lose their fertility I'm assuming all men will break up with their wives when they go through menopause so why bother getting married?
My aunt is 12 years older than my uncle and she just turned 71...they've been married for 30 or so years now and he's definitely not gay
I dont think age is such a big deal for a guy, although obviously everyone has their preferences. Some guys look years younger than they truly are, and their maturity/experience level can differ by a bunch.
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Sometimes guys in their 30's, if they're cute of course.
