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Old 06-09-2012, 05:31 PM
 
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I have this friend in his early 40’s who I’m really considering cutting ties with because of his insistent bragging about his sexual conquests of the past. He has to spill all the details. I’m a guy in my mid thirties and i don’t remember the last time I bragged about this stuff, but I’m certain it was well over a decade ago plus a few years. It’s not only the bragging, but also the objectification that irks me. I’m honestly not surprised he’s still single.

Do any guys here still brag about this stuff?
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Old 06-09-2012, 05:35 PM
 
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I have this friend in his early 40’s who I’m really considering cutting ties with because of his insistent bragging about his sexual conquests of the past. He has to spill all the details. I’m a guy in my mid thirties and i don’t remember the last time I bragged about this stuff, but I’m certain it was well over a decade ago plus a few years. It’s not only the bragging, but also the objectification that irks me. I’m honestly not surprised he’s still single.

Do any guys here still brag about this stuff?
I know many men who do this. Hell they go so far as to show pictures of the women they've been with. I could give 2 sh*ts about there conquests or whatever they are to them, but since they know I can't find a woman to save my life they love to brag in front of me.
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Old 06-09-2012, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Talking about sex with your friends? That's a little bit inappropriate.

It sounds really normal to me.


Isn't it normal guy talk talking about the women you've been with?
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Old 06-09-2012, 05:44 PM
 
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It sounds really normal to me.


Isn't it normal guy talk talking about the women you've been with?

I have many friends in my lifetime. The friends who go to bars and clubs will go on and on about the women they've had sex with. These people are not my kind of friend anymore.

The friends who I have now rarely, if ever, speak of conquests. Some of these friends of mine have had many women before, they just prefer to not speak of them as "conquests" as others would say and objectify them.
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Old 06-09-2012, 05:45 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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Me and my girlfriends talk about sex, but names and details are left out.... Stories can be fun, but I don't need to know who was involved.

As for the guys, yes, my guy friends (and I use that term loosely, since they're mostly just coworkers or acquantinces) CONSTANTLY talk about their conquests, brag about cheating and go on and on about how 'hot' this chick was or how 'ugly' that chick was. They also like joking around about sleeping with 'fat chicks' and then ditching them, they think it's quite funny.

Honestly, working with guys like that for many years in my early 20s gave me major trust issues when it came to men. They acted all cute and sweet around their girlfriends/wives, but the minute they were gone they completely changed.
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Old 06-09-2012, 06:03 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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I don't think it's unheard of, but to me, it's more the realm of younger, sometimes less secure, people, of either gender.
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Old 06-09-2012, 07:12 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Wait, you're suggesting that it isn't cool to brag about the strange you got from a party the night before? Blasphemy
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Old 06-09-2012, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Wait, you're suggesting that it isn't cool to brag about the strange you got from a party the night before? Blasphemy
You should put ointment on that.
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Old 06-09-2012, 07:27 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I usually don't pay attention because those types of guys are usually lying. Most of the guys I know that do that, I have never seen them with a girl nor could I see women finding them attractive.
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Old 06-09-2012, 07:32 PM
 
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I have this friend in his early 40’s who I’m really considering cutting ties with because of his insistent bragging about his sexual conquests of the past. He has to spill all the details. I’m a guy in my mid thirties and i don’t remember the last time I bragged about this stuff, but I’m certain it was well over a decade ago plus a few years. It’s not only the bragging, but also the objectification that irks me. I’m honestly not surprised he’s still single.

Do any guys here still brag about this stuff?
I am going through the SAME thing right now. It's like he is using me just to have someone to talk to about ANYTHING that makes him look accomplished (not just sex). There is nothing wrong with being proud of something, but I've had him tell me things twice in one day. I just wanna be like, "How many times are you going to tell me this?"

And to top it off, these people get mad when you don't talk to them anymore.
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