Is this the right way to approach this? (dating, boyfriend, how to)
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Looking for opinions on how to handle this in the right way. I haven't been in a relationship in a long time so I feel out of practice. So, here's what's going on...
I went to happy hour with a guy I met at a party a while ago. It's unclear whether it was a date or just something friendly. We split the bill but he ended up paying double what I did b/c of the way the waiter did our tabs. He seems cool and we get along. He wants to hang out again, this time for dinner... but now I'm in a committed relationship with someone I was dating (but not exclusively) when I went to happy hour with this other guy and I don't want there to be any issue.
He e-mailed about dinner today and I don't know whether to -
A. reply and say yes but I'm now seeing someone and would like to us to be friends
B. reply and say I'm not interested
C. reply and say yes, then mention something about my boyfriend sorta in passing
D. just ignore his message
I'd rather respond b/c i hate when ppl don't respond to my messages and I think it'd be nice to be friends b/c he's a cool guy and lives in my neighborhood.
Looking for opinions on how to handle this in the right way. I haven't been in a relationship in a long time so I feel out of practice. So, here's what's going on...
I went to happy hour with a guy I met at a party a while ago. It's unclear whether it was a date or just something friendly. We split the bill but he ended up paying double what I did b/c of the way the waiter did our tabs. He seems cool and we get along. He wants to hang out again, this time for dinner... but now I'm in a committed relationship with someone I was dating (but not exclusively) when I went to happy hour with this other guy and I don't want there to be any issue.
He e-mailed about dinner today and I don't know whether to -
A. reply and say yes but I'm now seeing someone and would like to us to be friends
B. reply and say I'm not interested
C. reply and say yes, then mention something about my boyfriend sorta in passing
D. just ignore his message
I'd rather respond b/c i hate when ppl don't respond to my messages and I think it'd be nice to be friends b/c he's a cool guy and lives in my neighborhood.
If the relationship you are in now is actually a committed one, then you really should not be hanging out with other guys. Think of how that might make your bf feel. Try and see it reversed. If he came to you and said he was going to have dinner with another girl, no matter how it gets painted, it just looks bad. And these things always lead to further emotional complications. Why do that to yourself?
Also ask yourself this: Can you even tell your bf about the dinner? If the answer is no, then you are aware there is something fishy here.
Looking for opinions on how to handle this in the right way. I haven't been in a relationship in a long time so I feel out of practice. So, here's what's going on...
I went to happy hour with a guy I met at a party a while ago. It's unclear whether it was a date or just something friendly. We split the bill but he ended up paying double what I did b/c of the way the waiter did our tabs. He seems cool and we get along. He wants to hang out again, this time for dinner... but now I'm in a committed relationship with someone I was dating (but not exclusively) when I went to happy hour with this other guy and I don't want there to be any issue.
He e-mailed about dinner today and I don't know whether to -
A. reply and say yes but I'm now seeing someone and would like to us to be friends
B. reply and say I'm not interested
C. reply and say yes, then mention something about my boyfriend sorta in passing
D. just ignore his message
I'd rather respond b/c i hate when ppl don't respond to my messages and I think it'd be nice to be friends b/c he's a cool guy and lives in my neighborhood.
I'd say if you were already friends with the guy before, it'd be OK to hang out with him. But you weren't and it's pretty clear you have some romantic interest since you are here asking, so ... I wouldn't.
Your choices include both "yes" and "no", so it is unclear how YOU feel about this other guy. Are you certain that you made the right choice by getting committed (you do seem interested in this other guy as well)?
I'd first make sure that I'm 100% willing to stay in the committed relationship before blowing that guy off. If you are sure of that, then tell the other guy you are involved with someone and want to see where it goes.
if the other guy asked you to dinner, i think it's safe to assume that he has some romantic interest in you (unless he's gay).
it would only be fair to him that you not lead him on. as such, IMHO your best bet is to just let him know that you have a BF now who wouldn't like it.
... but now I'm in a committed relationship with someone I was dating (but not exclusively) when I went to happy hour with this other guy and I don't want there to be any issue.
There is a dichotomy here. You cannot be committed to a relationship that is not exclusive. If you are in an open relationship, that means you can see who you like, when you like. Just don't lie about it.
Looking for opinions on how to handle this in the right way. I haven't been in a relationship in a long time so I feel out of practice. So, here's what's going on...
I went to happy hour with a guy I met at a party a while ago. It's unclear whether it was a date or just something friendly. We split the bill but he ended up paying double what I did b/c of the way the waiter did our tabs. He seems cool and we get along. He wants to hang out again, this time for dinner... but now I'm in a committed relationship with someone I was dating (but not exclusively) when I went to happy hour with this other guy and I don't want there to be any issue.
He e-mailed about dinner today and I don't know whether to -
A. reply and say yes but I'm now seeing someone and would like to us to be friends
B. reply and say I'm not interested
C. reply and say yes, then mention something about my boyfriend sorta in passing
D. just ignore his message
I'd rather respond b/c i hate when ppl don't respond to my messages and I think it'd be nice to be friends b/c he's a cool guy and lives in my neighborhood.
I recommend 'A'.
And explain, in your own words, of course, that it would not be a good idea to go out on a dinner date. It will be a mild heartbreaker for him but ultimately he'll appreciate your honesty.
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