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Has a budding relationship ever ended because at that critical stage you or the person you were dating had some kind of personal problem... (work, health, family, accident, etc) and it was easier to walk away rather than get more invested?
Not for me personally, but yes I know people who ended up breaking up because a really major personal issue entered into their SO's life. Major events can have a major impact on people and change them, or affect them in a way where they are no longer able or capable to grow a relationship at that time. If that continues, it could harm or kill a relationship. This can happen not only in budding relationships, but well established ones and marriages too (although it may take longer for couples in a longer relationship or marriage to decide to terminate it over an issue like this).
To answer your question, Yes. I met someone special right as he was graduating with his Bachelor's degree and he had already made plans for grad school. I was also about to graduate and had made plans to travel around the world. We decided to have a casual relationship for the 3 months before he left for grad school. After the 3-months, he decided he wanted to have a long distance relationship with me...we loved each other and tried the long distance thing for over a year. I did travel the world, mostly Europe and Asia, which made our long distance relationship even more long distance. In the end, sometimes love just isn't enough to sustain a relationship through difficult circumstances and bad timing.
Sometimes I wonder what might have been if we had met earlier or later.
What do you mean? Any number of things can prevent a budding relationship from developing! What if you meet somebody a few weeks before you're scheduled to move, let's say - as simple and common as it gets.
What do you mean? Any number of things can prevent a budding relationship from developing! What if you meet somebody a few weeks before you're scheduled to move, let's say - as simple and common as it gets.
Exactly.
I can tell you, if I was starting a relationship, and something serious befell one of my family, that relationship would definitely be put on hold, and as a result, it could wither and die. Happens ALL the time, for many many people. It's simply part of life.
Has a budding relationship ever ended because at that critical stage you or the person you were dating had some kind of personal problem... (work, health, family, accident, etc) and it was easier to walk away rather than get more invested?
Nope. Crap happens. Change happens. All these things happen too DURING a relationship in later stages too. So if you walk away because everything isn't perfect and ideal, you probably were not ready for a serious relationship in the first place. Besides, a healthy relationship shouldn't be all life consuming.
Nope. Crap happens. Change happens. All these things happen too DURING a relationship in later stages too. So if you walk away because everything isn't perfect and ideal, you probably were not ready for a serious relationship in the first place. Besides, a healthy relationship shouldn't be all life consuming.
I agree with this--when a relationship is well under way. But many times we're just beginning a relationship that looks to be promising and it's usually the person with the personal problems who backs away, thinking that they don't want to involve someone new in all this crap. Happens all the time.
Happened to me once--I was just beginning a LD relationship with a man who lived about 2-1/2 hours away and I had must met the family and hit it off with them. Then he came home from work one day and found one of his friends hanging in the basement. How lovely--he never knew why the man chose his house to hang in. Better rafters perhaps? In all the emotional trauma that came after that--he was trying to sell the house b/c it was just too creepy to stay there, I was pretty much forgotten. When we did talk on the phone, he just couldn't get it together to say much and I pretty much assumed that he wasn't as into me as I thought and moved on, though I was perfectly willing to be there for him. But one doesn't push themself on someone, esp a new relationship. I found out years later that he greatly regretted it, and I did too, but what's to be done?
Um I was talking about not leaving if he or she suddenly had personal problem... (work, health, family, accident, etc). I would try my best to be supportive. However if it's so extreme that it would be a threat on my mental or physical health, then I would have to leave.
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