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Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half but have known him for 8 and a half years we were friends before. He wanted to be with me for a long time. I found out I had cancer last year and decided to give him a chance as he truly showed me so much compassion while I was ill having surgery etc. Things have been good then I found out that I have cancer again, it returned. This time things were really difficult and we thought I may die.....My boyfriend has been there for me once again. however I found out today that he is sleeping with his ex girlfriend during my cancer treatments. He recently took a trip away and was even calling her from there.
Im attractive but have little confidence because of my illness.
People are usually surprised when they find out we are together he is not ugly its just im kind of out of his league but I didnt care as I knew what we had and how he has been there. I talk to him about everything he's my best friend, other than this incident things were pretty fantastic between us.
I truly feel I have hit rock bottom,I am on here because I cant tell any one because every one loves him and loves the way he supported me I have also spoken very highly of him to every one I feel as though I am on my own its so humiliating. I cant not explain how low i really am, Im only in my 20's and my life is pointless just wish i wasn't here. should i take him back? its gonna be difficult finding some one else because of my situation so i feel im kinda trapped
Your health is no reason for you to settle for a cheater. I am a firm believer that no man is better than a piece of man. If you don't want a man who cheats on you (esp when you are sick) you need to move forward. Sorry you are going through this.
Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half but have known him for 8 and a half years we were friends before. He wanted to be with me for a long time. I found out I had cancer last year and decided to give him a chance as he truly showed me so much compassion while I was ill having surgery etc. Things have been good then I found out that I have cancer again, it returned. This time things were really difficult and we thought I may die.....My boyfriend has been there for me once again. however I found out today that he is sleeping with his ex girlfriend during my cancer treatments. He recently took a trip away and was even calling her from there.
Im attractive but have little confidence because of my illness.
People are usually surprised when they find out we are together he is not ugly its just im kind of out of his league but I didnt care as I knew what we had and how he has been there. I talk to him about everything he's my best friend, other than this incident things were pretty fantastic between us.
I truly feel I have hit rock bottom,I am on here because I cant tell any one because every one loves him and loves the way he supported me I have also spoken very highly of him to every one I feel as though I am on my own its so humiliating. I cant not explain how low i really am, Im only in my 20's and my life is pointless just wish i wasn't here. should i take him back? its gonna be difficult finding some one else because of my situation so i feel im kinda trapped
What? this lousy scum..has the gall to cheat on you when you were going thru a difficult and painful time in your life. He scumbag should of been by your side giving you emotional support.
Im sure your heart is in pain, your probably thinking how can someone hurt me so bad in my time of need.
Trust me it gets better once you leave this no good scumbag
Kick him to the curb, you deserve better.
Its better to be alone than to be with someone who shows you how much you mean to them..when it shows you mean nothing.
Never once think you deserve that kind of treatment because you have cancer..you deserve respect, dignity, honor...and a man who will not cheat on you.
This man is worse than your cancer...
Your well-being is all that matters right now. You don't need any stress in your life, because you have to get well. If having him around is bothering you, let him go. You don't deserve a cheater, and he has no right to treat you that way. I understand that right now you are leaning on him, but if you are worrying about what he is doing, that will not help you. I hope that you get well soon.
It really depends on you. Can you overlook this? Have you discussed his behavior with him?
It's a matter of whether you want him in your life after this or if you don't. Don't let other people's opinions of him or you make your decision for you. Make it for yourself and what's best for you.
Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half but have known him for 8 and a half years we were friends before. He wanted to be with me for a long time. I found out I had cancer last year and decided to give him a chance as he truly showed me so much compassion while I was ill having surgery etc. Things have been good then I found out that I have cancer again, it returned. This time things were really difficult and we thought I may die.....My boyfriend has been there for me once again. however I found out today that he is sleeping with his ex girlfriend during my cancer treatments. He recently took a trip away and was even calling her from there.
Im attractive but have little confidence because of my illness.
People are usually surprised when they find out we are together he is not ugly its just im kind of out of his league but I didnt care as I knew what we had and how he has been there. I talk to him about everything he's my best friend, other than this incident things were pretty fantastic between us.
I truly feel I have hit rock bottom,I am on here because I cant tell any one because every one loves him and loves the way he supported me I have also spoken very highly of him to every one I feel as though I am on my own its so humiliating. I cant not explain how low i really am, Im only in my 20's and my life is pointless just wish i wasn't here. should i take him back? its gonna be difficult finding some one else because of my situation so i feel im kinda trapped
First of all he is not your best friend. Best friends don't treat someone they care about, who is undergoing cancer treatment, with such disregard by sleeping with their ex girlfriend. It is despicable and completely unforgivable behaviour and you need to take that on board.
Who cares if everyone loves him, they don't know what he did and it's no-one else's business if you decide to break up.
You need to dump him and concentrate on your treatments and getting well. You do not need this huge added stress at this time in your life. You do not need a man in your life to make you complete or happy. You have enough on your plate at the moment, take some time for yourself instead.
Good luck with the treatment, I hope you get well soon.
It really depends on you. Can you overlook this? Have you discussed his behavior with him?
It's a matter of whether you want him in your life after this or if you don't. Don't let other people's opinions of him or you make your decision for you. Make it for yourself and what's best for you.
With all due respect to conflicting views, this is the only post so far which makes the most sense.
"so low" if you're seeing a counselor or are part of a support group in dealing with the cancer you may want to bring up the subject there as I'm guessing you're not alone in going through something like this. I seem to recall at least two threads here in the last couple of years which were very similar. All the very best to you!
I would think since you are 'out of his league' that you shouldn't have trouble finding someone to care for you...that really wasn't a very fair thing to say, you know. Talk to him. See what's up and be sure your 'assumptions' are accurate. Maybe the exgirlfriend is really just a shoulder for him to cry on...
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Well, I dunno know...
