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My husband and I have a friend who recently found out that his live-in girlfriend was having an affair with her boss for several months. She is much younger than him (she is 24 and he is 45) and she cheated with her boss who is 52 (somebody has daddy issues I think....)
She unfriended me on Facebook when this whole thing came out, presumably because she is afraid of what I will write on her wall?
Anyway, they may get back together and if they do, they may visit us for 3-4 days (we are 2000 miles away). I really don't want this woman in my home, but my husband says that if our friend takes her back, we have to accept her. Does that mean I have to accept her in my home? I never liked her to begin with and now I like her less.
My husband and I have a friend who recently found out that his live-in girlfriend was having an affair with her boss for several months. She is much younger than him (she is 24 and he is 45) and she cheated with her boss who is 52 (somebody has daddy issues I think....)
She unfriended me on Facebook when this whole thing came out, presumably because she is afraid of what I will write on her wall?
Anyway, they may get back together and if they do, they may visit us for 3-4 days (we are 2000 miles away). I really don't want this woman in my home, but my husband says that if our friend takes her back, we have to accept her. Does that mean I have to accept her in my home? I never liked her to begin with and now I like her less.
So they may get back together and then they may come to visit... Why not worry about it when this happens?
On the other hand, if I was in your shoes and my friend ended up forgiving her, I would accept her. If he feels that she deserves forgiveness, who am I to say "no"...and there are rare circumstances when I'd refuse to give my friend a place to stay and this doesn't happen to be one of them. It's your call entirely, if you don't feel comfortable, don't accept them. It's your home after all.
So they may get back together and then they may come to visit... Why not worry about it when this happens?
On the other hand, if I was in your shoes and my friend ended up forgiving her, I would accept her. If he feels that she deserves forgiveness, who am I to say "no"...and there are rare circumstances when I'd refuse to give my friend a place to stay and this doesn't happen to be one of them. It's your call entirely, if you don't feel comfortable, don't accept them. It's your home after all.
This is true. But I think our friend asking about the visit is his way of testing the waters to see if we would accept her. I think it's just the older I get, the less tolerance I have for nonsense in my life. I try to spend time with people whose company I enjoy and people I respect. Our friend falls into that category, but this little **** does NOT.
Anyway, if it comes to it, I guess I will just have to grin and bear it.
This is true. But I think our friend asking about the visit is his way of testing the waters to see if we would accept her. I think it's just the older I get, the less tolerance I have for nonsense in my life. I try to spend time with people whose company I enjoy and people I respect. Our friend falls into that category, but this little **** does NOT.
Anyway, if it comes to it, I guess I will just have to grin and bear it.
No you don't have to, I don't think that you do. It's your home and if it really bothers you, you shouldn't allow it and if that's how you feel, you can tell this to your friend.
No you don't have to, I don't think that you do. It's your home and if it really bothers you, you shouldn't allow it and if that's how you feel, you can tell this to your friend.
My husband and I have a friend who recently found out that his live-in girlfriend was having an affair with her boss for several months. She is much younger than him (she is 24 and he is 45) and she cheated with her boss who is 52 (somebody has daddy issues I think....)
She unfriended me on Facebook when this whole thing came out, presumably because she is afraid of what I will write on her wall?
Anyway, they may get back together and if they do, they may visit us for 3-4 days (we are 2000 miles away). I really don't want this woman in my home, but my husband says that if our friend takes her back, we have to accept her. Does that mean I have to accept her in my home? I never liked her to begin with and now I like her less.
I'd have a hard time respecting a friend like yours, so the friendship would just die a natural death, without a visit.
It's not your business. If your friend has taken her back, you have to be civil to her. But you don't have to be more than that.
I agree with this. It's not your relationship. If you really are against the idea, tell them your home is not available for the visit and suggest they stay in a hotel? Then you can limit the time you spend with her and avoid having to be a host to someone whom you don't respect.
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