Online Dating: Does she still want to meet me? (how to, women, love)
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I am on a couple of dating sites. A woman replied back with what she called the longest email she has written and loved my profile. A few emails back went well. She was the first to suggest meeting up. Made plans for a Saturday but she had been sick and called to cancel. We talked for a half hour and I thought it went well I said I would call her to reschedule for when she felt better. She said it sounds like fun.
I called Monday night-V Day-asked about meeting Thursday. No call or email back. I emailed Thursday night saying I enjoyed the conversation and would enjoy meeting her but she might have been nursing the cold still but let me know if you would still like to meet. She looked at my profile Friday, nothing. Monday she writes back saying she enjoyed our conversation too, had still been sick and lost 2 days work, using the holiday to catch up. Hope I had a good weekend.
Could she still interested in meeting me and just waiting for me to call again to make plans? Was this just a polite note and she isn't interested? I am puzzled I guess with getting the initial scheduled date was easy. I don't mind pursuing because she sounded fun and interesting with a lot in common. But it is online dating so I am not good at reading the situation.
Here's what you need to ask yourself in this situation.....
If you were in HER shoes, what would you do? It sounds like you'd make sure you let the other person know you were still interested, right? You'd try to reschedule as quick as possible because you are very interested, correct?
Well she's not doing that. You can't possibly no why, and it may be for a reason that has nothing to do with you.
I'd just stop reaching out to her at this point. Dating is a two way street. You've made your effort a few times, she needs to reciprocate. In the mean time you should reach out to more women via email.
Here's what you need to ask yourself in this situation.....
If you were in HER shoes, what would you do? It sounds like you'd make sure you let the other person know you were still interested, right? You'd try to reschedule as quick as possible because you are very interested, correct?
Well she's not doing that. You can't possibly no why, and it may be for a reason that has nothing to do with you.
I'd just stop reaching out to her at this point. Dating is a two way street. You've made your effort a few times, she needs to reciprocate. In the mean time you should reach out to more women via email.
I agree. I wouldn't email her anymore, let her email you when she's ready. If she never emails back, it won't be any big deal because you'll be emailing other women by then.
Don't contact her anymore unless she contacts you first. You already called once and she didn't answer. Then you emailed. You don't want to seem desperate. Give her some more time to recover her illness. I know sometimes I've had colds that last 2 weeks and I've put off dating until I feel 100% better. It is no fun to deal with girls when you're sick as a dog. If she doesn't call or write back again, then move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
You also have to realize that women are extra defensive when it comes to online dating. You can have what seems like a great phone conversation, but if you call too much afterwards or come on too strong it can ruin things. The slightest mis-step and the girl will never talk to you again. You just have to learn from your mistakes, take it like a man, and try again with the next girl.
I would also wait. Remember it's a dating site, she's looking too. When you're single and on a site, it's not uncommon to play the field... why put all your eggs into one basket? If she's interested, she's an adult and knows how to get ahold of you. In the meantime, put your energy into what you went on there to do... date.
Thank you all for your advice even though her email back was so vague, I won't contact her.
I guess I have in my head the guy pursues and makes the plans but I made my interest clear and said I wanted to reschedule so ball is in her court. Her initial interest triggered my follow up phone call and email, one of which was probably the wrong thing to do. I wouldn't have done both if not for her initial high interest. But no need for me to keep trying but just wanted an objective view on what went down.
Thank you again.
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