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Back when I was in the market for a wife there was much to consider. Unlike a dog or cat that you have to feed and care for for 15 years or so, a wife could live 50-60 years after marriage. This is quite a problem if you need travel about to work or enjoy yourself. Whereas you can get a neighbor or friend to stop by and feed/water the cat (and at worse pay to board), it is much more difficult doing this with a wife. As you get older it is even possible the wife may outlive you and will need to take in consideration what to do with her upon your demise. Many sad stories of wifes left to fend for themselves when that happens.
Then there is the issue of offspring. Your pets can get “fixed” so as not to produce litter after litter but most wifes will reject the notion. Back years ago you used to be able to put the youngsters in a cardboard box and give them away at grocery stores or service stations. Nowadays the outlets have rules against this and you need to place expensive ads in the papers or Craigslist.
Then theres the question of getting your wife from a nice couple or the local shelter. Problem with women from the shelters is they frequently were abused or neglected. This can lead to problems with keeping them around. Though many guys have found really good wifes this way. You can never tell. It depends on the effort you wish to make.
All in all, the responsibility for having a wife is too much for many guys to make. I decided against it myself reluctantly, for as much as I would have loved to have one, I was just not prepared to make the commitment.
I suppose a wife being like a pet rather than an equal is no different than a husband being an extra child....
Sounds like you've met too many high maintenance women, but if marriage isn't your thing....
I suppose a wife being like a pet rather than an equal is no different than a husband being an extra child....
Sounds like you've met too many high maintenance women, but if marriage isn't your thing....
Yes, there is the problem with taking in strays. They look so helpless and cute, but once you feed them your stuck with them for life. Many a poor young guy ends up married this way.
As I mentioned I am not opposed to marriage. I have just outgrown it. At my age the center wont allow me to have any wives/pets. Or playmates for that matter. Though centerfolds are still allowed.
Yes, there is the problem with taking in strays. They look so helpless and cute, but once you feed them your stuck with them for life. Many a poor young guy ends up married this way.
As I mentioned I am not opposed to marriage. I have just outgrown it. At my age the center wont allow me to have any wives/pets. Or playmates for that matter. Though centerfolds are still allowed.
And I guess the millions of people that still choose to get married are immature/dumb, even if many a guy may actually be happy in marriage.
Marriage isn't misery for everyone: to each his/her own.
And I guess the millions of people that still choose to get married are immature/dumb, even if many a guy may actually be happy in marriage.
Marriage isn't misery for everyone: to each his/her own.
I never mention any misery about getting married. As I wrote, I thought (still do) it was a great idea, just the responsibility was high and the circumstances were lacking.
As to guys being happy in marriage? I suppose anything is possible.
What I want most in a wife is for her to see "eye to eye" with me spiritually; for her to put God first in her life above all else. I would also want her and I to have similar values when it comes to family relationships, ideas on raising kids, etc. and so on and so forth. There is also the obvious stuff like personality and physical attraction. I'm very fortunate to have a wife that has all of the above.
Thus it's bad for both parties. My parents never missed an opportunity to tell me that I wasn't wanted. And they treated me as if they didn't want me throughout my childhood.
Back when I was in the market for a wife there was much to consider. Unlike a dog or cat that you have to feed and care for for 15 years or so, a wife could live 50-60 years after marriage. This is quite a problem if you need travel about to work or enjoy yourself. Whereas you can get a neighbor or friend to stop by and feed/water the cat (and at worse pay to board), it is much more difficult doing this with a wife. As you get older it is even possible the wife may outlive you and will need to take in consideration what to do with her upon your demise. Many sad stories of wifes left to fend for themselves when that happens.
Then there is the issue of offspring. Your pets can get “fixed” so as not to produce litter after litter but most wifes will reject the notion. Back years ago you used to be able to put the youngsters in a cardboard box and give them away at grocery stores or service stations. Nowadays the outlets have rules against this and you need to place expensive ads in the papers or Craigslist.
Then theres the question of getting your wife from a nice couple or the local shelter. Problem with women from the shelters is they frequently were abused or neglected. This can lead to problems with keeping them around. Though many guys have found really good wifes this way. You can never tell. It depends on the effort you wish to make.
All in all, the responsibility for having a wife is too much for many guys to make. I decided against it myself reluctantly, for as much as I would have loved to have one, I was just not prepared to make the commitment.
Cute. But of course we could simply reverse the gender and it would be just as relevant.
I think my wife has all the traits I want. She is intelligent and attractive. She is a wonderful cook and mother. She actually enjoy's vacuuming and has a well worn copy of Mrs. Manner's. She is willing to relocate for a good job oportunity. She loves to read, sew and crochet. She enjoy's playing boardgames and watching movies. She doesn't smoke and drinks only in moderation. She recognizes her faults and tries to improve herself and she doesn't harp on my faults. (Though she'll throw a suggestion or two when appropriate.)
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I suppose a wife being like a pet rather than an equal is no different than a husband being an extra child....
