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Have you ever done this? If so, what was the result?
(Don't say death & taxes - we all know those are 100%)
I actually fear being alone or lonely. I know that's why I overschedule and overdo. I sometimes hate to actually finish something b/c I don't know what is behind it.
I appreciate your honesty. I used to feel that way too, I don't so much anymore. I wouldn't say that it was my biggest fear, but I understand your point.
I say to help face this "fear", try being still and meditating for a while. Then you will really be aware of how you probably are never just still, how you fill you time up to prevent your mind from racing and filling yourself up with negative thoughts.
Have you ever done this? If so, what was the result?
(Don't say death & taxes - we all know those are 100%)
I actually fear being alone or lonely. I know that's why I overschedule and overdo. I sometimes hate to actually finish something b/c I don't know what is behind it.
Anyone have this problem?
(Don't know if this is the right place for this).
The only thing I fear is my kids being hurt, it breaks my heart to see them hurt.
Have you ever done this? If so, what was the result?
(Don't say death & taxes - we all know those are 100%)
I actually fear being alone or lonely. I know that's why I overschedule and overdo. I sometimes hate to actually finish something b/c I don't know what is behind it.
Anyone have this problem?
(Don't know if this is the right place for this).
I don't have a fear that I can control that I haven't faced and or beaten. I can't make someone love me and marry me though so that is out of my control. Everything else can be controlled by me and I build up to it. When I feel that the time is right or don't have a choice I jump in balls to the wall!
I don't fear being alone but I do have a very irrational fear of dying in a car crash. This severely affects my everyday life and I live with a lot of anxiety. Every day I jump in my car or someone elses car I face my fear.
I think we all face our fears at some level or another, or we'd never get out of bed in the morning. What is our biggest fear becomes smaller, once it is faced -- then we have other "biggest" fears. Life is often being afraid, but just doing whatever it is, anyway.
I used to think that losing a parent would be the worst thing ever. I lost my dad just before I turned 19. It was awful, and I still miss him more than thirty years later, but it wasn't what I'd feared.
That's the thing about fear -- most of it is just big shadows that fade in the light of attention.
Most of us fear being alone. But let me tell you, being married to a person that makes you feel lonely was worse for me. I left him after two years, and I was really glad to be alone!
When I am afraid of something, I ask myself: "What if the absolute WORST that I can imagine about this thing was to happen? What then?" Then, I picture that thing happening. It cannot possibly be worse than things that have happened to someone else, and if they lived, they survived. If they can, so can I. (If they didn't, or I don't, then it doesn't matter, anyway -- right?)
If you believe in yourself, and know you are a good person, you can face anything. If you are not a good person, get yourself right so you can call yourself one, and THEN you can face anything.
I wasn't there for my father the way he needed it in his last weeks., I'll never forgive myself for that.
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