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My mother in law fell at work shattering her elbow obviously surgery was done which resulted in a second surgery being done only a few weeks after first because one of the pins or screws had to be reset or something of that nature. After second surgery she ended up getting a staff infection in her arm so she got to stay in the hospital to get that cleared up. Finally she was able to get the bionic looking arm brace thing removed about to begin her physical rehab for her elbow, she was rushed to the hospital again not for her elbow, but for a brain aneurysm that had been leaking and was ready to rupture had she waited any longer to go to the E.R. she wouldn't of made it. Long story short her memory was affected pretty badly. She can ask a question and have a 5 minute conversation and then a few minutes later she'll ask the same question. After she was released to go home from hospital my husband and I made arrangements for someone to stay with her. My MIL's sister (who also lives next door) would go to my MIL's house to "see how she was feeling". But you have to know that my MIL's sister never does anything for someone else without an agenda of her own. She's what I call a bible thumper, wants everyone to believe she is this sweet selfless person when in reality she is narcissist, manipulative, controlling person always trying to take advantage of everybody and everything. This particular time she ends up sending the person home that was there helping my MIL & then gives a couple permission to move into my MIL's home. Two complete strangers that my MIL has never met before her sister just takes it upon herself to move these people in set up whatever verbal agreement for them to pay the utilities. (I believe that she figured that she could have this couple move in for a few months while my MIL applied for disability since the doc said she could no longer work, and since the filing for disability process can take a few months until you start receiving money, and so forth.) As you can imagine my MIL's sister was not happy when she discovered that she was not being appointed to handle my MIL's affairs. Now these people that were supposed to of moved out months ago will not leave. They had applied for some apartment but got turned down because they didn't pass the BACKGROUND CHECK part. We went to my MIL's sister and told her that she needed to get these people out since she put them there, but of course she's pissed off since she didn't get to take over everything and says it's our problem. My MIL is basically being pushed out of her own home bc these people are trying to take over. They brought a cat into the house and now my MIL's cat will not come inside because of that cat. They keep bringing clothes, little knick knacks, junk not only into the house but we they have also been storing stuff in the shed out back which my MIL opened up one of the storage bins and discovered a jewelry box with some of her jewelry. She confronted them about it and they told her she must of put it there and forgotten bc her memory isn't sharp as it once was. My MIL hasn't been in the shed since before her elbow surgery. It's gotten so bad that the hallway is literally piled waist high with clothes that you trip trying to walk down the hallway. My MIL has to sleep in the livingroom bc they have taken over her bedroom. And my MIL isn't supposed to get too stressed, too excited, bc the doc says that she cannot let her blood pressure get high otherwise she could have another anuerysm. Neither of these people are working and my MIL is on a fixed income that is basically being used to pay her bills that are 3x the amount now. I've done some research and read about the eviction process, but is there some loophole since my MIL's sister was the person who gave them permission to move into my MIL's house, which my MIL is the homeowner not her sister. Would it be considered a risk to her health given the whole medical part of it, or abuse of the elderly? At the rate this whole nightmare is going she's not going to make it. I know life's not fair but this is ridiculous.
Omg that's a horrible story. I know nothing about the eviction process, but I wonder if you contact a elder abuse program if they'll help. I don't know if you're the dil or sil, but both of you need to go help this poor woman. Are the moochers scary? Drug addicts? Me, I'd move in and make their life hell till they moved out. Or, I'd move her in with me, is that possible until this gets straightened out?
This cant wait! This can kill this poor woman, do something now! This IS elder abuse. And shame on her sister. Too bad you cant move them to her house. I hope someone here gives you better advice and that you keep us updated.
1) Attorney time- now- what are you waiting for ? Get someone who knows your state laws in regard to eviction and get them to file with the court to get the eviction process started. Don't make excuses, just get going on it.
2) Check with social services/ elderly services in you town. Your MIL needs an advocate to help her. Tell that person about the jewelry being taken, the people living there paying no rent, etc. Your family member may have to file a police report over stuff like that even though she got it back. This whole housing situation, depending on her age, may be a form of elder abuse or abuse of the disabled/ handicapped, if she is younger.
OP- you mean well but you're totally ineffective. You're on an internet message board while things keep going downhill for your family member. We can't fix this for you. You have to do it yourself. You're going to have to get a lawyer and social services or elderly services involved. Good luck.
Is this some type of troll post? NO way in hell, would I have allowed things to get that far with my mom. Why are you asking this question? Why isn't your husband taking care of this for his sick mom? There is no such thing as a "verbal agreement" when it comes to living in a home. If these people moved in and your MIL and you/your hubby did not know these people, then you call the police immediately! What's the matter with you? Your MIL is the owner, not her sister, so her "verbal agreement" means squat!
Get your husband and tell him to DO SOMETHING. At this point it seems your MIL has no one backing her corner. This is absolutely outrageous to me that it even got this far.
These people are not tenants because the person who allowed them to move in was not authorized. Additionally, there is an issue of elder abuse. Two things need to happen immediately.
Get an attorney (specializing in elder law) and file for temporary guardian of the person and poa of her finances.
Call the police to have them removed since this is not a lt-tenant situation; it is one of elder abuse due to the clutter in the home making it impossible for her to move around and the fact that they are not authorized to be there by anyone having that authority.
I think you need to go to FreeAdvice Legal Forum. Personally, I think your MIL needs your help right now. GO there with your MIL when they aren't there and change the locks. Your MIL owns the property. They are there illegally I would think and there's no way in hell I'd let them take anything without going through the stuff first. Double check the legalities with a lawyer first, but that's what I would be leaning towards.
Omg that's a horrible story. I know nothing about the eviction process, but I wonder if you contact a elder abuse program if they'll help. I don't know if you're the dil or sil, but both of you need to go help this poor woman. Are the moochers scary? Drug addicts? Me, I'd move in and make their life hell till they moved out. Or, I'd move her in with me, is that possible until this gets straightened out?
This cant wait! This can kill this poor woman, do something now! This IS elder abuse. And shame on her sister. Too bad you cant move them to her house. I hope someone here gives you better advice and that you keep us updated.
That is a terrible situation.
I agree that this has to stop. NOW! What if those "people" change the locks and kick your MIL out of her own house and just take over all of her bank accounts? It seems like they are on the way to doing that. They have already kicked her out of her own bedroom and even kicked her cat out. Sheesh! These are NOT nice people. Your MIL's sister seems like an evil person to kick out the official caregiver and replace her with these slime.
Your MIL may be injured, fall and possibly die due to the junk in the hallway, etc.
In addition, if her jewelry is already being found among the things owned by the "intruders" they probably have already stolen many other things as well.
And no one is working so it appears that they are living there rent free, and not paying any of the bills including food. It doesn't seem like they are "caregivers" just freeloading, low lifes.
Perhaps this could be transferred to the Caregiving site. I have read similar threads on that site and the posters there probably can give you much better information than on a real estate site.
This happens more often than one wants to believe.
Imagine the helplessness the elderly victim must feel ?
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