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Sometimes when people talk, they overuse the word "just". Oh, it's just this or just that. Seems like they are making whatever they are talking about seem less important. Are they lacking confidence in what they are saying? I've seen this in a couple presentations where I doubt they had planned to say it. It might be one of those words that comes out under nervousness. Maybe I am "just" thinking too much about it.
Sometimes when people talk, they overuse the word "just". Oh, it's just this or just that. Seems like they are making whatever they are talking about seem less important. Are they lacking confidence in what they are saying? I've seen this in a couple presentations where I doubt they had planned to say it. It might be one of those words that comes out under nervousness. Maybe I am "just" thinking too much about it.
Yes. It's a way of downplaying what they're saying.
Sometimes when people talk, they overuse the word "just". Oh, it's just this or just that. Seems like they are making whatever they are talking about seem less important. Are they lacking confidence in what they are saying? I've seen this in a couple presentations where I doubt they had planned to say it. It might be one of those words that comes out under nervousness. Maybe I am "just" thinking too much about it.
I don't think they're lacking confidence.. When people overuse the word "just" they almost immediately disconnect from what they're saying like they are playing down their emotions.
Almost like the overuse of the word "it" people use "just" and "it" as a way to not appear too emotional- "Just do this." "It's just." Kinda a dismissive position they take on, which gives the impression they have the upper hand in communicating.
I can not speak this like it's a hard core fact for everyone (presumptions can cause confusion) but i can certainly say it about myself...
When i use the word 'just' in a sentence, i am simply stating 'nothing more, nothing less'. this to me says that i do not view the things i state as good or bad and that i instead view them as 'just' a thing which you either agree or disagree with. so if this is how it is for myself, then it may be possible that it is the same for others.
I will leave a message, " Oh. It's just me. Blabla, just wanted to remind you blabla."
Lemme tell ya, you never met anyone with more confidence than me.
Never.
I can do anything,
by His grace, that is.
It just implies, that it is no big deal, not all that imp in the scheme of things...doesn't matter
all that much...not even if you don't get this message!
But, that is not the issue here.
If a person is bothered by any word... or quirk...
having been in therapy myself...I would offer he look at his/her self esteem in himself ...
and thus, the need to control...
typical thing any therapist points to...
Cause all these issues come from inside us, right? And gosh darn it, we don't want to now
see our subconscious issues outside of us reflected back at us!!! hahaha
I got irked by how obsessively this society uses the word 'worry'.... I finally just
let it go...if people want to program their minds that worry is 'normal'...have at it.
So, see, now it doesn't bother me.
Ah, the freedom. I had an issue of wanting to help, but really control people...not any MORE!!
And thus, the word is not so prevalent anymore. Ha!
I do that, but I don't think it's lack of confidence as much as for some reason, almost embarrassment/self-consciousness about getting compliments or attention, so I down play it. Many people do that, "Oh, it was nothing, anyone would have saved that little boy drowning". I think it's almost a way to try to deflect attention from ourselves.
It also depends who I'm talking to. If someone I know doesn't have money compliments an expensive sweater or something I'm wearing, I'll say thank you, but add "it was on clearance". I think part of it is guilt for having nice things when maybe that person doesn't not sure. I do think the "just" thing is the same, definitely a good question.
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