Is David Cooper your father? Born early 1970's? Ever worked at CTRC? (location, records)
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You may be the brother I never knew. I have considered the many options for locating someone whom I have no real information on. Somehow this seemed to be the best way to start. I seek not just responses from someone who may know my brother, but welcome responses from those who can relate or may have ideas of how to proceed should this fail.
My cousin relayed to me, many years later, that while waiting at CTRC in medical center for his mother to get her treatments, a young man approached my father and asked 'Are you David Cooper? I think your my father.' They walked away together and had a private conversation. Why my cousin did not share this with me at the time I don't understand, but perhaps my father asked him to keep it secret. For years after hearing the story I also chose not to seek out my brother so as not to have to hide him from my mother. (I assumed she was unaware and wished to preserve dads memory for her)
One day my need to stop fighting the need to fill the hole in my heart led me to tell my mother what I had been holding in. To my surprise, she already knew. See, he had started the new relationship and must have considered leaving his first family to be with them. Pressure from his family to honor the committment to his sick wife and the little girls he already had must have ended things. But this boy no doubt grew up knowing his fathers name and was able to recognize him when he saw him. This encounter occurred 2006 or so. It was after 2011 or so before I heard the story from my cousin. I could say more about always wishing I had a brother, or feeling like something was missing from my life, but I will just let this unfold with no judgement of how it should go. I can only hope he has shared his story with others or friends my father had from Sears or the neighborhood will have some hints to help me focus my search. Heck, his mother could no doubt fill in more to the story than her son. I can't imagine what she must have went through becoming a little family and then ending up a single mom. Thank you for reading the whole thread, I know it's long. This is my first attempt at this so go easy on me?
Paragraph breaks would help posters wade thru this confusing post, you'll prob get far more responses too. Simple facts are impt, nEed info re location/s, years, specific info such as locations (pls don't abbreviate, this is an intl board), relatives names and dobs, and what is ctrc??? Later you can elaborate on the situation and feelings and opinions, if you want, but it's far too early now to get sidetracked w that now. Good luck
I don't know the situation about how your mother feels about this.
But if she knew about it. Is it possible to speak to her & find out if
there are more details . Perhaps it's too painful to talk about it.
May be you can explain like you have here that you would like to know
about your brother. Hopefully she will understand your need.
Possibly with a name you can check hospital birth records for that
time period. They should have a registration record of expectant mothers.
What you're looking for is the baby's name/file. Check the file to see the address
given at this time. Usually, he attended the school that was closest to
that particular address.
Check with the schools in that area that he might have attended.
The school yearbooks might provide pictures.
It's a long shot... Good Luck !
Last edited by ranchodrive; 04-28-2014 at 12:53 PM..
Paragraph breaks would help posters wade thru this confusing post, you'll prob get far more responses too. Simple facts are impt, nEed info re location/s, years, specific info such as locations (pls don't abbreviate, this is an intl board), relatives names and dobs, and what is ctrc??? Later you can elaborate on the situation and feelings and opinions, if you want, but it's far too early now to get sidetracked w that now. Good luck
Thanks! This was my first attempt at starting a thread. I also know so little, I thought a story was the way to go.
I live near Dallas and work in the medical field and I don't know what CTRC is. Is Dallas your current location or did this happen in Dallas? Need city and state, full name of work location, date of birth and full name of any relatives you know (or guesses as to age), etc.
I read your post 4 times. I was trying to figure out where your father was/is. Why can't you ask your father about your brother. Your post didn't say whether your father was alive or not. You should also ask your mother and aunts, uncles and grandparents for information, which you "think" they may have. It's best to start with people you know. Good Luck.
Your mother might very well know the name of the woman. That at least gives you a last name to search with. I'd search with your father's last name, too, in case the baby was given his last name.
You know what town the brother was located in, in whatever year that boy approached your father.
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