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I thought we were talking about x-mas and b-day gifts. My kids don't snoop to snoop. But I sure do with my teen anyways. She's a good kid but getting into those years when a lot of the experimentation goes on. So I peek around every now and again just to make sure she is telling me everything. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
The one thing I dislike is when strangers go snooping throughout my house. Even though I have no secrets, it is still disrespectful for strangers to snoop through other people's belongings. I feel it is a violation of personal space. If I ever found out my kids were snooping through someone else's stuff, I would be very upset at them.
I read somewhere about putting a bag of marbles in your medicine cabinet when you are having a party so that you can catch/embarrass any snoopers. When the cabinet door is opened and noisy mess spills out! I would never have the nerve to do it, but it did sound like a clever trick!
I read somewhere about putting a bag of marbles in your medicine cabinet when you are having a party so that you can catch/embarrass any snoopers. When the cabinet door is opened and noisy mess spills out! I would never have the nerve to do it, but it did sound like a clever trick!
Gads, can you imagine snooping like that and having marbles clatter all over the bathroom? What a great idea.
I would be annoyed if my kids were snooping around at my things. I don't have anything to hide except at Christmas, but then I want to see their faces when they are surprised. I would be disappointed if they already knew what their presents were.
As far as snooping around my kids rooms, well that's a different story. The way I look at it is this: If my kids are under 18 and they are living in my house then I am responsible for them and what they may or may not be in possession of. If they have anything illegal or dangerous I want to know. My oldest is very secretive and sneaky. My youngest is pretty good, but he is not a teenager yet.
I was a huge snooper growing up. Found my fathers pistol and was completely fascinated by it. Back then it wasn't kept locked up. Thank God it wasn't loaded. I think it was the start of something. Who knew one day I would be an expert shooter in the military?
I snoop on my kids. I have listened to their Ipods and made them delete offensive music, looked at their phone text messages and monitor their computer usage. They know I do it so maybe it isn't considered snooping. I have also read the autographs and comments in their yearbooks. Learned of a few antics that way!
Put everything in a closet with a padlock on it. It's no that hard. Just don't react like my sister...
6 year old nephew looked in the closet and saw his Christmas presents. His mother caught him and then flipepd out on him about how he ruined Christmas, Easter and every holiday for himself for the next five years because he happened across "Santa" presents. She went on until he was hysterical. She says..."I didn't have to spank him or anything. After that, he felt so guilty."
OUCH! Same thing, my four year found his Christmas presents in the closet. We locked it after that and were very casual about it. We don't lie to our kids about terrifying strangers in big red suits or dressed like rabbits, who they hate because they never got just the right gift. I don't think they are in much taste to the holiday they "represent" so we'll never have to deal with that.
Besides...what 11 year old still believe in Santa?? I was over it when I was 4. In all, I felt her reaction was abusive. Hit the dollar store and buy a lock. Don't blame your kids for your lack of ability to hide something.
WAY wrong. It's a parent's job to make sure their kids don't have things like drugs, pornography, cigarettes, etc.. It's none of a kid's business what a parent has.
Why is it necessary to know everybody else's secrets? Why does it matter? Parents are allowed secrets, so are kids. They only secrets kids aren't allowed are those that can hurt them.
There would be no strangers in my house unless I was there, and why would strangers snoop in somebody else's house?
I do believe that it is the right of the parent to make sure their kids don't have drugs, porno, cigerettes....etc. and knowing whether your kid is doing anything that is potentially dangerous, and or illegal is a parent's resposibility. But I do not make it a habit to snoop through my kids' things unless they give me proabable cause because I trust my kids and hope that they aren't doing things they do not want me to know about. To some degree yes parents are allowed a few secrets that is none of a child's business, but If parents keep to many secrets from their kids it sends the signal to kids that it's okay to keep things from their parents and then that shuts down lines of trust and communication on both sides. In order to be trusted one has to also trust.
It's not necassary to know everyone's secrets, I know I don't want to know my neighbors secrets unless their secrets are something like they are a seriel killer or a pedophile or something else that should be a worry. But again in order to have a good line of communication and trust with your children, your children need to know that they can trust you and that you will be up front and honest about things.
When I said I didn't like strangers snooping, I was meaning more along the lines of non immediate family and people I have invited in to my home. But I don't want complete strangers snooping through my house either. What goes on under my roof is only between me and my family and is no concern to anyone else unless there was something criminal going on.
I only snooped through my kids stuff after I realized they were snooping through mine.. I left their stuff turned upside down so they would KNOW someone had snooped.. Didn't take them to long to realize what was happening and WHY... That good better results than any speech they could have gotten.
...There would be no strangers in my house unless I was there, and why would strangers snoop in somebody else's house?
If you've ever had a house up for sale, you may very well have had strangers snooping in your home when you weren't there. It's ugly but it happens. There are some seriously Nosy Nerts running around.
If a Realtor is accompanying said Nosy Nert during the showing, it is less likely that they'll snoop, but they'll still open drawers, cabinets and whatnot. Do they really need to see what's in EVERY drawer in the kitchen?
It's very likely, too, if you've ever had an Open House, you've had strangers peeking thru your stuff. The Realtor can't be everywhere, and if there are several folks looking, there's a good chance one of 'em will look places they don't need to look.
Short true story: A few years ago, friends had an advertised Holiday Open House. Friends, neighbors and random strangers attended. They actually caught a woman looking in dresser drawers. Obviously, the contents of those drawers weren't intended to be part of the festivities...
Put everything in a closet with a padlock on it. It's no that hard. Just don't react like my sister...
6 year old nephew looked in the closet and saw his Christmas presents. His mother caught him and then flipepd out on him about how he ruined Christmas, Easter and every holiday for himself for the next five years because he happened across "Santa" presents. She went on until he was hysterical. She says..."I didn't have to spank him or anything. After that, he felt so guilty."
OUCH! Same thing, my four year found his Christmas presents in the closet. We locked it after that and were very casual about it. We don't lie to our kids about terrifying strangers in big red suits or dressed like rabbits, who they hate because they never got just the right gift. I don't think they are in much taste to the holiday they "represent" so we'll never have to deal with that.
Besides...what 11 year old still believe in Santa?? I was over it when I was 4. In all, I felt her reaction was abusive. Hit the dollar store and buy a lock. Don't blame your kids for your lack of ability to hide something.
THERE'S NO SANTA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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What a great idea.
Obviously, the contents of those drawers weren't intended to be part of the festivities...
