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I have a baby, less than 2 years old and while we try to do our best for our baby, we live in low income and don´t have much money at the moment. We buy all the necessary clothing, nappies, wipes, food but we can only buy few toys. Despite working hours we spend the rest of the day with him and we love him much than he will know. But I am afraid, he realizes that he has no the same opportunities and goods like other kids.
But I am afraid, he realizes that he has no the same opportunities and goods like other kids.
If he knows he's cherished and you raise him to be a conscientious, ethical person who has been taught to value himself and others, he won't care. He'll know he can go out and MAKE those opportunities (and the goods that result from them) happen for himself. People who get handed everything on a silver platter don't necessarily turn out to be better human beings.
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I have a baby, less than 2 years old and while we try to do our best for our baby, we live in low income and don´t have much money at the moment. We buy all the necessary clothing, nappies, wipes, food but we can only buy few toys. Despite working hours we spend the rest of the day with him and we love him much than he will know. But I am afraid, he realizes that he has no the same opportunities and goods like other kids.
Does he have anything to play with?
I do think he needs stimulation outside of what he can create for himself.
Can’t you pick up some toys or books or puzzles at garage sales or thrift stores? He does need to look at colors and shapes and animals and objects. And certainly books.
Love alone is not enough to make him learn. He is a sponge right now and needs stimulation.
I have a baby, less than 2 years old and while we try to do our best for our baby, we live in Value Family Traditions income and don´t have much money at the moment. We buy all the necessary clothing, nappies, wipes, food but we can only buy few toys. Despite working hours we spend the rest of the day with him and we love him much than he will know. But I am afraid, he realizes that he has no the same opportunities and goods like other kids.
Children do not need *things* to be happy. They need to feel loved and cherished.
“Children are not things to be molded, but are people to be unfolded.” – Jess Lair
Don’t Compare Them To Others
Acknowledge Their Efforts
Let Them Take Chances
Give Them A Sense Of Responsibility
Value Family Traditions
Teach The Benefits Of Negative Emotions
Create Happy Memories
Give Them Plenty Of Play Time
Take Arguments Elsewhere
Be Happy Yourself
Make sure they eat right and get healthy nutrition
Make sure they get plenty of exercise and sunshine
Read to them
Spend quality time together
I have a baby, less than 2 years old and while we try to do our best for our baby, we live in low income and don´t have much money at the moment. We buy all the necessary clothing, nappies, wipes, food but we can only buy few toys. Despite working hours we spend the rest of the day with him and we love him much than he will know. But I am afraid, he realizes that he has no the same opportunities and goods like other kids.
Yes, he will notice when he gets older. Poor kids notice when they don't have the same things that other kids in different neighbourhoods or from other households with higher income have. It's unrealistic to assume that they don't. What's most important is that you teach your kids that there's more out of life than material things. Family, health, staying true to yourself and having integrity are some of the things that you can teach them so that they don't become burdened with the superficiality of having things vs not having things.
When they grow up, regardless of how successful they are, they'll remember those lessons and stay humble. Be proud then that you've raised someone who participates and gives back to the community, thinking of others and not just about him/herself.
I can tell this is your first child. For your second and third youngster, even at 2 years old when they could care less or know better, you'll be telling them to be glad they have what they got.
As for the cardboard boxes somebody mentioned, when my sons were 8 and 10, I used to get a couple refrigerator boxes, tape them together in a 90 degree angle and let them play in them. They loved it! I also found an old vinyl play house somebody was throwing away. Part of the roof was gone and one of the shutters that close in one window was also gone. They didn't care! We would have several of their friends out playing in that broken down house.
Just quit making a big deal out of everything and enjoy watching him grow up.
I have a baby, less than 2 years old and while we try to do our best for our baby, we live in low income and don´t have much money at the moment. We buy all the necessary clothing, nappies, wipes, food but we can only buy few toys. Despite working hours we spend the rest of the day with him and we love him much than he will know. But I am afraid, he realizes that he has no the same opportunities and goods like other kids.
IMO, kids are better off with few things, but with the gift of quality time from their parents. Bonding time. Hugs, playtime, learning time, storytime with you reading to them from kids' books, going for walks, going on excursions to see interesting things: festivals, the zoo, parks, the beach, different experiences. "Less is more" applies to the "how much stuff" question, OP.
Bond with your child, don't just buy stuff and leave him alone in his room to entertain himself. And keep it up as he goes through grade school and middle school. That will pay off in spades as he grows and hits puberty.
I concur with others that at two, your child is completely unaware of how his life compares to others. Your love and attention is his whole world and everything he needs. Read library books together. Let him "help" you in the kitchen. Go to story time at the library. Take him to the park. He will be happy, I promise.
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