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My teenage son just got home from his first year of college. I would appreciate any pointers others may have in dealing with this situation. We were always a very close family and are glad to have him back. Just wondering what others have gone through and what we might expect!
he's had his job lined up since january, so that is taken care of! he also does college football, so he has training to do. I was wondering about how their personality changes etc. effect family life. I have heard some people have really horrible experiences. Looking for tips to avoid bad stuff!
As long as he's living up to his obligations (work, training, keeping personal space clean) treat him as an adult, not the kid you sent to college last year. Before he comes home, sit down and make a list of expectations, like washing his own clothes, calling if he isn't coming home at night, no overnight female guests or whatever you'd like to set as guidelines.
When he gets home, after a day or two, go over the list with him and explain you just want the summer to go well and be sure to ask him if there's any expectations that he has. As long as you talk to him as you would any other adult that you respect and keep those lines of communication open, you should be fine.
i just graduate from college (6 years of schooling. 4.5 BS + 1.5 MS).
I didn't know parents worry about this kind of stuff haha... Then again, i never spent more than two weeks back home after i started college (I always either went to summer school, or got an internship).
All i can say, is that your kid is going to want the same freedom that he/she has in college. If you trust him/her, let him/her have his/her freedom.
All i really had to do when i stayed with my parents, was let them know when i finally stumbled back home from being out with friends haha.
If your kid wasn't drinking before he left. he/she is now a drinker... don't be surprised to see them show up drunk at night....
My teenage son just got home from his first year of college. I would appreciate any pointers others may have in dealing with this situation. We were always a very close family and are glad to have him back. Just wondering what others have gone through and what we might expect!
You must talk to him on the phone reguarly. Is there anything in your conversations that make you think you have something to anticipate?
he has been home for a couple of days now. and we did have the conversation about drinking. as one poster mentioned, he was not a drinker before and admits that he drinks now. he knows that the rules at home are no drinking and driving and no riding in a car with anyone who has been drinking! and to call if he is not coming home. he likes to have his buds over to play cards etc. so he even went to the grocery store with me to do all of the hauling!!! we are stocked up on sodas and some snacks, but he knows that we can't feed everyone all of the time(sometimes there are a dozen of these boys here). I just hope that he doesn't resent us old folks!
I think you're worrying too much. If you've always been close, then you should be able to continue that. You have house rules, it seems like you've gone over them, so you'll be fine. As someone else said, treat him as an adult. Do that and most likely he'll respond as one. And, he won't resent you. Have a good summer!
ROFLMAO....he's resented the old folks since he was 13 so things should be gettin better now......
Right now he's probably amazed at how much you've learned in the last year.
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