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I was one of those who are always late, always procrastinating. For me it was anxiety, it takes me awhile to mentally prepare myself for whats ahead. I used to get horrible stomach aches just from worrying myself silly over nothing in the morning. I wish my mom talked to me but oh well.
What helped is making sure I have double or even triple the time and mentally go through all upcoming "events" to reassure myself that it's basic stuff with predictable outcomes and nothing to stress about.
I hope things went more smoothly this morning, OP.
Thank you, they actually did. It helped to have things laid out beforehand and ready to go, and I did get her up a little earlier than usual. We were all ready and out the door on time, without any drama. Was it a one-time fluke? Remains to be seen . . .
Thank you, they actually did. It helped to have things laid out beforehand and ready to go, and I did get her up a little earlier than usual. We were all ready and out the door on time, without any drama. Was it a one-time fluke? Remains to be seen . . .
Hopefully not!
Usually when the kids feel how much better things go with a little prep, they are on board. Just keep encouraging her when she gets ready with less drama.
I have a 12 year old son exactly like this. He’s always been slow. Same personality as your daughter. Smart, lots of friends, active... but drives everyone nuts anytime we’re trying to stick to a schedule.
We are having him evaluated for ADD as well. His dad has it so it’s quite possible he inherited the gene.
I have no solutions for you. We finally worked out a routine where he pre packs his book bag and lays put his clothes the night before. No one turns on a TV in the morning. If me or my husband hear any horseplay going on we guide him back on task. I make it part of my routine to poke my head in his bedroom in the morning to make sure he’s not sitting on the bed staring into space. I call his name frequently until he’s dressed and downstairs. I won’t give him his phone until everything is done.
He’s still more often the last person out the door than not.
Even his teachers joke about how slow he is.
His dad complains about him every morning but he is the exact same way. SMH
You could try what my parents did (there may not be an easy solution to individual task dawdlers if it is something they do not like to do) - but my parents had a simple policy for all the children and through teen years. All were given household chores. And we were made to complete chores and any schoolwork BEFORE we could engage in play or leisure activities.
It incentivized me to always get my chores done and try to do as much school assigned homework during school so I could go outside and play with my friends. This may be harder in today's 'connected PC age' , - I would encourage that on one hand, and then more 'pre-emptive" schedule times to at least get her closer to a time for certain things like ready for school, going out on family trip or dinner gathering etc...
Depending on the age you may need to 'walk them through the steps to be ready' and if you explain it to them in a fun way they can remember, all the better for it. You could create a trigger (sort of the equivalent in batters having a memory to focus themselves in baseball) - we started doing the line from The Music Man with one family member to be playful "Don't dawdle Amaryllis" - when the young girl is practicing Piano Lessons.
And if she is not ready for doing something, have consequences - denied privilege. It depends on temperament of the child. She sounds like one of my nieces. Very smart but not incentivized to be prompt until she was on her own in college. Now she's the most responsible of her siblings.
We haven't had her evaluated. To be honest, I hadn't thought about it. But maybe I should.
Please don't. She's in a developmental stage that she'll likely grow out of. She may just have a vivid imagination and could turn into a creative genius some day. Don't ruin that with prescription medication.
Thank you, they actually did. It helped to have things laid out beforehand and ready to go, and I did get her up a little earlier than usual. We were all ready and out the door on time, without any drama. Was it a one-time fluke? Remains to be seen . . .
That's great, bus man. Maybe the fact that you focused on the solution and took steps are enough to make it happen.
Sometimes, just making it clear that it's a priority will solve the problem.
One thing we would do, is have a talk, and say here's the problem. What can you do to help? What do you think I could do to help? And they'd often come up with weird things, or things that wouldn't seem to help, but the problem would be solved. Because they realized it was a priority and were given a chance to try to figure it out together.
Please don't. She's in a developmental stage that she'll likely grow out of. She may just have a vivid imagination and could turn into a creative genius some day. Don't ruin that with prescription medication.
An evaluation doesn't automatically mean medication.
An evaluation doesn't automatically mean medication.
Too often it does. American kids are the most medicated in the world and it is reaching alarming proportions.
Has the OP tried reading some books on child rearing? I wonder. So many parents don't try the obvious before rushing a kid to the doctor to get some sort of psychiatric diagnosis.
That's great, bus man. Maybe the fact that you focused on the solution and took steps are enough to make it happen.
Sometimes, just making it clear that it's a priority will solve the problem.
One thing we would do, is have a talk, and say here's the problem. What can you do to help? What do you think I could do to help? And they'd often come up with weird things, or things that wouldn't seem to help, but the problem would be solved. Because they realized it was a priority and were given a chance to try to figure it out together.
Good practical solution!
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