Blended family birthday dilemma..... (step-dad, sitter, party, meal)
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Ok, my better half's daughter turns 21 on October 19.... MY daughter turns 23 on November 25.... My two daughters and her daughter and son and his wife are all in the same age range (21-25).... I'm thinking it might be fun to combo the celebrations and let the kids hang out as they don't get to see each other much due to distance.....
As you can tell by the calendar, my daughter's birthday lands on Thanksgiving weekend, so I would like to plan a celebration a weekend or two before to separate it from the holiday. Stepdaughter is in late October. In my pea brained mind, I think a combo celebration on around November 10 can work.
Or do we just keep them separate? We can't afford to foot the bill for two separate events.
Keeps the stepdaughter's birthday weekend free for a turning 21 night with her friends, and also a dinner with her dad.
Keeps my daughter's birthday weekend free to have a dinner celebration with her mom.
I would ask the daughters which they'd prefer and let them decide.
Well that just makes too much sense.....LOL....
Looking for opinions on the raw idea at the moment....
The kids do all get along.... There is no "middle" as far as distance..... Not sure of the menu but in Hartford, our capitol city, I believe there is a comedy club which can be fun. Closer to where my step kids are are our casinos which after dinner the kids can move to one of the clubs if they want to and we can go for relaxing drink before heading for our 1 hour drive home. (casino's are about one hour for us and my kids, minutes for her kids and the birthday girl actually is a hostess at a restaurant at one of the casinos) (Depending on traffic, Hartford is less than 30 minutes for mine and maybe 40 minutes for hers).
Oh, and to add to the mix, as mentioned, the to be 21 girl works at a restaurant and has to plan way ahead for a weekend night off, and MY to be 23 is working at a hotel front desk....so same thing for a weekend night off..... so we need to set it up like NOW, to give them time to get their nights off. And my stepson works 2nd shift, so it needs to be a Saturday night and before he puts his name in the hat for OT.
Call up and say "hey we would like to schedule something for your birthdays but the only date we have available is November 10. If that works for you two let us know which restaurant you two want to eat at. Thanks!"
I personally think making a big deal out of an adult birthday is unnecessary. Nevertheless, something you might want to consider is that stepdaughter is turning 21 which is “milestone” birthday. That is, she might not want to share this day because it is a 21st birthday.
I think it's super sweet, and refreshing that you're wanting to plan something fun for everyone, and yet still, allow them their own celebration on their terms.
Ok, my better half's daughter turns 21 on October 19.... MY daughter turns 23 on November 25.... My two daughters and her daughter and son and his wife are all in the same age range (21-25).... I'm thinking it might be fun to combo the celebrations and let the kids hang out as they don't get to see each other much due to distance.....
As you can tell by the calendar, my daughter's birthday lands on Thanksgiving weekend, so I would like to plan a celebration a weekend or two before to separate it from the holiday. Stepdaughter is in late October. In my pea brained mind, I think a combo celebration on around November 10 can work.
Or do we just keep them separate? We can't afford to foot the bill for two separate events.
Keeps the stepdaughter's birthday weekend free for a turning 21 night with her friends, and also a dinner with her dad.
Keeps my daughter's birthday weekend free to have a dinner celebration with her mom.
Opinions?
Do you usually celebrate all birthdays with a party like you want here? Not everyone likes a lot of attention like this and might just want a low key regular family ham or chicken dinner without party favors.Consult the birthday people and decide on the date between you all. Personally I like pot luck dinners and they can be tasty and fun. Let the little ones run around. My parents used to set up a card table and chairs that the young cousins could sit at together for dinner and visit with each other.
Ok, my better half's daughter turns 21 on October 19.... MY daughter turns 23 on November 25.... My two daughters and her daughter and son and his wife are all in the same age range (21-25).... I'm thinking it might be fun to combo the celebrations and let the kids hang out as they don't get to see each other much due to distance.....
As you can tell by the calendar, my daughter's birthday lands on Thanksgiving weekend, so I would like to plan a celebration a weekend or two before to separate it from the holiday. Stepdaughter is in late October. In my pea brained mind, I think a combo celebration on around November 10 can work.
Or do we just keep them separate? We can't afford to foot the bill for two separate events.
Keeps the stepdaughter's birthday weekend free for a turning 21 night with her friends, and also a dinner with her dad.
Keeps my daughter's birthday weekend free to have a dinner celebration with her mom.
Opinions?
Although I would ask the birthday girls what they prefer, I think your plan sounds wonderful! You are allowing them to celebrate with their friends and also have a fun party with family. That would work for me. You sound like a wonderful dad and step-dad in the way you take into account everyone's feelings and wishes.
I hope what you are planning to do works out and that you all have a great time.
Do you usually celebrate all birthdays with a party like you want here? Not everyone likes a lot of attention like this and might just want a low key regular family ham or chicken dinner without party favors.Consult the birthday people and decide on the date between you all. Personally I like pot luck dinners and they can be tasty and fun. Let the little ones run around. My parents used to set up a card table and chairs that the young cousins could sit at together for dinner and visit with each other.
Oh, since my divorce, I have always had a meal out with my two daughters to celebrate their birthdays. My wife has done so as well with her son and daughter.... This is a "go out to dinner" event, not a real party per se. Stepson and his wife will need to get a sitter. My daughter's birthday is always near, if not on, Thanksgiving.... I think having it early is good for her.... Not sure about my stepdaughter, and it may not only be her 21st birthday, but she reports for basic training in January. Not sure if we can have a nice going away for her with the holiday season....hope we can....
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