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Overall, it's only a good gift if it's wanted. The pros is the teacher is likely "chill". Much more then mom or dad. I got them for my foster daughter because I didn't want to be in the car while she drove at first. Eek.
But if he doesn't want to drive, it's a waste of money.
I'm wondering about the addict comment by a poster. Is your son an addict? Not so, I'd skip any gift giving. His doc is all he wants. Save up for treatment.
It's been 7 years since we last paid for private driving lessons, and even then it was almost $500. For that much money, I'd want the student to have some skin in the game. Does he have a car? Without one, the lessons wouldn't be very beneficial, driving is very much a use it or lose it skill when it comes to new drivers.
It's a generous thought, but I wouldn't bother unless he is committed to the process, has a car, and is able to pay for insurance.
Clearly I need a second cup of coffee this morning....
Yup...I meant that you need to do a certain number of hours with a certified driving instructor before you can get your license in my state. I thought it was very helpful for a fresh set of eyes to watch them, give them tips, and so on in a less...emotional environment. It was also beneficial in the sense that the instructor knew what the evaluators during the actual drivers' test were looking for, and could tell them what would be an automatic fail, etc.
That being said, my kids were eager to drive. If he doesn't care either way, I'm not sure I'd push it.
He wants to drive, but for some reason just keeps hesitating.
We're in Texas, the only requirement is to pass written and road test if one is over 18. Under 18 they must log a certain number of behind-the-wheel instruction with a licensed driver in addition to passing both tests.
I simply refuse to let him slide on this. I know I often get attacked on this board by the "perfect parents" out there, save your breath---you're on ignore. Even though he's that magic 18, there's still work to be done in fashioning him into an independent, self-sufficient adult.Not driving severely limits his options, and we won't always be there for him.
Many people simply learn better from a stranger than a parent. We really did our best, were positive, didn't yell at him or get impatient, regardless, it simply isn't working with us. Many people work better in a one-on-one situation rather than with parents.
If I do purchase the lessons for him, that will be about his only Christmas gift. We usually spend about $600/kid for Christmas, so this would be a better use than a bunch of other items. Something to think about, there's time between now and Christmas.
He wants to drive, but for some reason just keeps hesitating.
We're in Texas, the only requirement is to pass written and road test if one is over 18. Under 18 they must log a certain number of behind-the-wheel instruction with a licensed driver in addition to passing both tests.
I simply refuse to let him slide on this. I know I often get attacked on this board by the "perfect parents" out there, save your breath---you're on ignore. Even though he's that magic 18, there's still work to be done in fashioning him into an independent, self-sufficient adult.Not driving severely limits his options, and we won't always be there for him.
Many people simply learn better from a stranger than a parent. We really did our best, were positive, didn't yell at him or get impatient, regardless, it simply isn't working with us. Many people work better in a one-on-one situation rather than with parents.
If I do purchase the lessons for him, that will be about his only Christmas gift. We usually spend about $600/kid for Christmas, so this would be a better use than a bunch of other items. Something to think about, there's time between now and Christmas.
Even if the only requirement is to pass the road test, he'll be in more danger to himself and others unless he is willing to get on the road, and has the means to do so. You really need to discuss this with him. I agree that non-drivers are handicapped in many areas, but throwing money away in lessons isn't going to cure his trepidation if he doesn't want to practice on his own.
I paid for my own driving lessons from a driving school. Had a few lessons and passed my road test. No problem. But I wanted to drive! Doesn't sound like your son wants to.
He wants to drive, but for some reason just keeps hesitating.
We're in Texas, the only requirement is to pass written and road test if one is over 18. Under 18 they must log a certain number of behind-the-wheel instruction with a licensed driver in addition to passing both tests.
I simply refuse to let him slide on this. I know I often get attacked on this board by the "perfect parents" out there, save your breath---you're on ignore. Even though he's that magic 18, there's still work to be done in fashioning him into an independent, self-sufficient adult.Not driving severely limits his options, and we won't always be there for him.
Many people simply learn better from a stranger than a parent. We really did our best, were positive, didn't yell at him or get impatient, regardless, it simply isn't working with us. Many people work better in a one-on-one situation rather than with parents.
If I do purchase the lessons for him, that will be about his only Christmas gift. We usually spend about $600/kid for Christmas, so this would be a better use than a bunch of other items. Something to think about, there's time between now and Christmas.
I guess if you made up your mind get driving lessons and don't ask anybody elses opinion. It might be a waste of money, but, so be it.
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I'd say wait a while longer. My daughter tried driving at 18, she just wasn't ready for it. After another year or two she was finally tired of having to wait around on other people to take her places so she decided to give it another shot.
It took her three tries to pass the driving portion but she finally did it because she was determined to. I worry that if you push faster than he is ready for, he will use any minor setback to just give it up altogether
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