What to do, child exposed to sexual behaviors (custody, baby, parents)
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Grandma's house: Occupants
Grandmother
My mother (has full custody of my son)
My son Reid (3 yrs old)
My sister
Her son Christopher (5 yrs old)
Her youngest son Landon (18m)
Julia (cousin, 7 yrs old, grandma has custody)
Alexia (cousin, 8 yrs old, grandma has custody)
So I've noticed the past week my son has been acting very strange during my visits with him. He's been acting like a baby, not using words anymore, really shy and quiet and most noticeable trying to kiss me on the lips and tells me to open my mouth (we always do cheek kisses) and tries to kiss me between my legs when I'm sitting down.
I was absolutely furious from this behavior and demanded to know where he was getting it from. No one in the household knew.
I get a panicked call from my mom today telling me she went outside to look for Christopher and she found him and Julia behind the shed, her with her pants and panties down around her ankles and him with his pants unbuttoned. She said Julia quickly pulled up her bottoms and ran into the house. After talking to Christopher about what happened, he told her it wasn't the first time she had done this.
I am disgusted beyond words. My grandma refused to acknowledge that Julia did anything wrong or that she even did it! Julia told her weeks prior that her parents have sex in front of her when she is with them. She has been on meds for her attitude, suspended from school, the bus, threatened to kill herself at school, etc. Just full of problems. I want her removed from the house for fear of my son being molested or taught sexual things!!
My mom and sister won't do anything because my grandma has threatened to kick them out if they call any authorities about this. I don't know how to handle this.
As I understand your sons custody is with your grand mother? Why not you or your mother? What is the specialty about this grand mother.Why you cannot complain to the authorities about this? I don't understand what your grand mother doing all the custody of all the kids, why no parents? I cannot understand the situation. But based on your post it is possible little girl already molested and she knows things about sex also possible she watch not suitable things too like porn.And she experience that with your son. With out bottom line I cannot say much. But if your son is getting molested I think you better call the police or the authorities. Or fight for your own sons custody.
How to handle this? The right thing to do would be: Call police/CPS.
I don't know what's going on with the fact that your mother has full custody of your child. But instead of demanding that your grandmother remove that... problem child, why aren't you working on removing your own child out of that house?
Your mother and sister, as far as I'm concerned, are also scum for enabling such situation for their own comfort.
Assuming this is real, and not a troll.. Considering this is your first post?...
Why is this grandmother taking care of everyone's kids in the first place?
Second. I'd get the kid out of there ASAP and call police and CPS.
Really a no brainer but then again (if this is true) apparently nobody has enough brain cells to stop reproducing and pawning their kids off on this woman.
Assuming this is real, and not a troll.. Considering this is your first post?...
Why is this grandmother taking care of everyone's kids in the first place?
Second. I'd get the kid out of there ASAP and call police and CPS.
Really a no brainer but then again (if this is true) apparently nobody has enough brain cells to stop reproducing and pawning their kids off on this woman.
Well said I was thinking the same. I would call the police right away even before posting here.
My mom has custody, not my grandma. My situation is difficult with custody and it's been a very long process (2 years so far) and I'm still working to get him back. I posted on here because when I searched Google for answers on what to do this forum came up. I didn't want to call authorities because 1: I wasn't there, I can't really say what really happened, no proof if they decide to go back and say it didn't happen to save their living place, and 2: I don't know what will happen to my son.
Will he be removed from my mom's care because she stays? I can't get custody of him right now and neither can his father so I'm scared he might go into a foster home.
You all think it's such an easy choice but all its going to do it set a domino effect in motion. What if the authorities dissmiss it for lack of evidence? I've been to court many times over the past couple years and I've found they are not sympathetic. Things can go in a completely different direction in a few seconds, and losing my son after all I've worked towards would just devastate me. I lost him once because of someone else's actions, I can't do it again.
I made it clear to my mom if she didn't handle it today, I would.
My mom has custody, not my grandma. My situation is difficult with custody and it's been a very long process (2 years so far) and I'm still working to get him back. I posted on here because when I searched Google for answers on what to do this forum came up. I didn't want to call authorities because 1: I wasn't there, I can't really say what really happened, no proof if they decide to go back and say it didn't happen to save their living place, and 2: I don't know what will happen to my son.
Will he be removed from my mom's care because she stays? I can't get custody of him right now and neither can his father so I'm scared he might go into a foster home.
You all think it's such an easy choice but all its going to do it set a domino effect in motion. What if the authorities dissmiss it for lack of evidence? I've been to court many times over the past couple years and I've found they are not sympathetic. Things can go in a completely different direction in a few seconds, and losing my son after all I've worked towards would just devastate me. I lost him once because of someone else's actions, I can't do it again.
I made it clear to my mom if she didn't handle it today, I would.
No they are taking the actions regarding best for your son. I am not sure how come some one else action case you to loose your child but try to keep your eye on your son. Hope you can take your son to you soon
Like I said previously, it's still a difficult decision. Obviously I would prefer foster care but that means he could live anywhere in the state, hours away and I wouldn't be able to see him. Who knows what could happen then?
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