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As the OP said, her daughter daydreams in the shower. She will have to begin adjusting to a new school schedule shortly, which will require her to focus on showering and getting dressed before the bus comes. I think the OP is smart to ease into the transition now, while her daughter has a few weeks to practice.
If daydreaming is making the kid late for school, address that as an issue of timekeeping then. Have her get up earlier if she wants to shower before school. If she prefers to sleep in, she can shower after school.
The child is old enough to make her own choices about such things--not to be timed in the shower by mommy.
FYI when my daughter was 12, she was getting herself up and taking the train to school by herself. And she is no genius.
Oh. If this is a time management issue, it is time to put it in her hands.
Middle school is the right time to have her be in charge of getting herself together.
The OP has said she is not returning to this thread, and I can't blame her. There are some pretty off base innuendos being made, all from an innocent question about how long it's reasonable for a kid to shower.
NK, why don't you and your daughter work together with the clock or timer to decide what a reasonable amount of time is to shower when time is of the essence (school mornings, and/or when multiple people are getting ready for an event). Also discuss the difference between a shower that is more "functional" (normal, everyday shower) and a shower that is more "luxurious" (occasional treat) and which is appropriate when. And perhaps the cool showerhead is only used on those occasions...Sometimes dreamers need that kind of stuff explained to them.
If daydreaming is making the kid late for school, address that as an issue of timekeeping then. Have her get up earlier if she wants to shower before school. If she prefers to sleep in, she can shower after school.
The child is old enough to make her own choices about such things--not to be timed in the shower by mommy.
FYI when my daughter was 12, she was getting herself up and taking the train to school by herself. And she is no genius.
This.
Why can't this child make her own choices? Every single thread about her I get the sense that she's just trying to get some freedom from her overbearing mother. I would imagine most 12 year olds would feel rather oppressed if a parent watched them in a "pure glass shower that can easily be seen from the bed" then proceeded to set a strict minute limit.
It's micromanagement. And if that's considered an "off base innuendo," fine.
Amen Hunter! Army guy here, so I know the deal with shower times. I understand the Navy is the worst with it since they have to conserve water on the ship, but at least there are showers. On long patrols in Mesopotamia we'd go for a week or two with just wiping our bodies down with damp rags, not exactly good for the skin, and all that sweat and grim that gets caked into a layer between you and your clothing, but you have to make do with what you can.
Most Americans are just wussies and I can't believe how many adults have posted here that a parent they don't even know should just allow a child they don't know to do whatever that child wants. What better way to grow a generation of entitled brats?...(oh wait, smartphones, never mind)
Children are not enlisted in the military and don't need military rules.
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