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Hi, My name is Jill and I am hoping to meet other parents here that might have some advice. I have a 17 year old son that has been out of control. He got dropped from school 2 weeks prior to school being out for suspicion of selling marijuana. He does not want to go by any rules and wants to come in and out and he pleases. 3 weeks ago around fathers day is when it all really started coming apart. He was caught stealing my car after the fact and he has no license. He knew that when I got home from work that he was gonig to be in trouble so he stayed gone for several days and I could not find him. I know he is smoking marijuana and I have been very clear that no drugs and alcohol are allowed in my home. I am a clean & sober parent. So, when he came home 3 days later I attempted to discipline him and set down some house rules, he became out of control and verbally abusive and left again. I had setup therapy but he stated he might as well just pack his stuff and leave because he is not gonig to therapy. I feel like Im being walked on as a parent and im just trying to do whats right at this point but what is that? He is still a minor and I cant kick him out say the police. But do I continue to allow him to disrupt my home with out of control behavior?
I had setup therapy but he stated he might as well just pack his stuff and leave because he is not gonig to therapy. I feel like Im being walked on as a parent and im just trying to do whats right at this point but what is that? He is still a minor and I cant kick him out say the police. But do I continue to allow him to disrupt my home with out of control behavior?
You can't kick him out, but he can leave on his own accord if you mandate therapy. If he does, call and report him as a runaway. Then the police can do something about it. Around here, runaways are taken to some sort of juvenile detention facility or a halfway house before being sent home. Maybe he'll be 18 before that happens. I don't know what to tell you since he hasn't had his wakeup call yet with everything else he's gotten in trouble doing.
Look into the National Guard Youth Challenge Program for your state. It gets them into a new environment for five months, and its free to the parents. It's not a boot camp, although it is run by the National Guard.
Look into the National Guard Youth Challenge Program for your state. It gets them into a new environment for five months, and its free to the parents. It's not a boot camp, although it is run by the National Guard.
That would be a great idea for another kid; however, the following two points will likely disqualify the OP's child.
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•Not currently on parole or probation for other than juvenile status offenses, not awaiting sentencing, and not under indictment, charged, or convicted of a crime that is considered a felony when charged as an adult.
•Free from use of illegal drugs or substances, and free from the illegal use of drugs or substances.
Agree with the advice given to lay the rules and if he chooses to leave, he can. Upon 18, he is free to rebel however he wishes on his own.
At 31 years old as a husband and father, my son couldn't be more different from that rebellious teenager he was the summer he turned 18. So hang in there and stay true.
But in the end it is up to them and ole father time.
Good luck
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