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OK - heartbreak for me, the mother. The thread title may be a little overdramatic, but my son is nearly 13 and I'm having a hard time with how he has changed recently. He's going through puberty somewhat early - he's as tall as me now, is starting to get a mustache and has had some personality changes (more argumentative etc.) The whole childhood part has gone by so fast. I feel a bit like I'm mourning the child that I wasn't quite ready to let go of. We always did so much together and spent so much time together, but now really all he wants to do is spend time with his friends. He does quite well in school, and I generally like his friends, so I know I shouldn't complain too much, but I feel the need to vent.
Are there any other parents who have found themselves with similar feelings in this situation? Any advice on how to deal with it?
Everything you're feeling is completely normal. I wish I had better advise but all you can do is continue to embrace the person he is and keep building new memories with him. You'll get through this.
I know I shouldn't complain too much, but I feel the need to vent.
Vent what?
He's not smoking pot or even worse, cigarettes?
Hasn't gotten his girlfriend pregnant?
Talks about dropping out of school?
Isn't obese?
Isn't in a wheelchair?
My son turned 13 last summer. I remember the exact moment things changed (at least in my eyes).
We stopped for an ice cream. I asked the girl at the counter a question. My son was standing beside me. I caught a glimpse of his reaction as I was asking my quite normal, I'm sure she gets many times a day question.
My son was rolling his eyes and muttering something under his breath. I was stunned, but there was no doubt about it. I was now officially the mother of a teenager.
We were walking to the orthodontist today and I really think he was embarrassed to be walking with us (his little sister and I). It wasn't that long ago that he used to walk down the street holding my hand.
My son turned 13 last summer. I remember the exact moment things changed (at least in my eyes).
We stopped for an ice cream. I asked the girl at the counter a question. My son was standing beside me. I caught a glimpse of his reaction as I was asking my quite normal, I'm sure she gets many times a day question.
My son was rolling his eyes and muttering something under his breath. I was stunned, but there was no doubt about it. I was now officially the mother of a teenager.
I guess this type of behavior is a form of distancing and perhaps is a natural part of becoming an adult eventually. But so hard on the parents!
I'm not there with my son but I'm sure that I will be venting too when we get to that point. Big hug to you.
Thank you
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