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We absolutely do not spank. Good point about consistency and being on the same page. Incidentally, they are both very well behaved at school and we've only heard positive comments on their behavior. I wonder if they're bottling it all up and then letting it out after school? It's a tale of two worlds, sometimes it seems.
If this is mainly happening after school I would probably consider redirecting the pent up energy/frustration. Perhaps mom can take them on a bike ride to the park to play for a bit, or take the dog on a long walk, shoot hoops in the driveway for a bit before settling down with homework? Sitting in school can be really hard for some kids.
Agree about being right after school they need their attention directed to something productive, whether it be guided outside time, eating a snack, doing homework or doing chores. If they arrive home with no expectations then they will always find trouble to get into. Remember they've been in a structured environment for most of the day so far and letting them have complete freedom sends them to the extreme end of where they have been. Many kids need a transition in order to make it to that freedom without problem.
Oh, and for the record.....the provoking and teasing may never go away.....my 31 and almost 27 yr old daughters STILL do these things! Just as they get older they aren't physical about it anymore. lol It is merely their personalities clashing at times.
My two boys seem to tease, provoke and hit one another constantly. They are 6 and 8 years old. We spend too much time refereeing their fights and arguments. The younger teases the older who hits the younger who in turn comes and tells. At other times, the older teases the younger who hits the older. This cycle results in screaming, telling on each other, and sometimes hitting each other. Any thoughts from those who have two children close in age and who experienced something similar.
Tell them no telling.
Instigating and getting hit for it is just as bad as the hitting.
Tell them if you're going to push your brother till the point he hits you then don't bother coming to tell me he hit you.
Quit referring and let them work it out themselves.
Trust me when they hit 16 and 18 their "fights" will be a lot more rough and you can't referee two large teenage boys when they are wrestling.
My two boys seem to tease, provoke and hit one another constantly. They are 6 and 8 years old. We spend too much time refereeing their fights and arguments. The younger teases the older who hits the younger who in turn comes and tells. At other times, the older teases the younger who hits the older. This cycle results in screaming, telling on each other, and sometimes hitting each other. Any thoughts from those who have two children close in age and who experienced something similar.
I have a son and daughter, 4 years apart. When they were small, around 6+ & 10+ they had been verbally battling and doing pretty similarly to what you describe. I too had tried everything I could think of. One particular day...when I was at my hits end I yelled Ok....Just beat the heck out of each other and be done with it. They both looked shocked, fell down they were laughing so hard....They never did that again.
But, know your children before you test this...My younger two sons would have taken me literally, so I never tried that with those two.
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