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Marylee,
You have to take a chill pill.
They are both 15, so you are probably getting upset only because you have 2 teenagers.
But, please relax a little bit.
OMG, I am sure you were a perfect teenager, weren't you?
Just CHOOSE your battles.
You haven't seen anything yet....don't come down so hard on
non life threatening things like this.
Your job is to protect them from life threating things now.
Drugs, driving with drunk friends, boyfriends who just got out of jail,
drinking alcohol, staying out all night with people you don't know,
don't fret the small things, and don't be soooo strict that they
want to run away from home because they can't stand their over bearing
mother at home.
You are the adult, you ahve to think and act like one at all times.
Don't withhold neccesary dental care from your child because mommy is
mad and stamping her feet, you sound like a fool.
Good luck with your kids, and I hope they can tolerate you
not the other way around.
I don't see the point in not insuring her. Will the premiums cost more if she smokes? If so, when she turns 18, have her pay the difference. Not paying for insurance at all is pointless. Any health effects she has will happen long down the road, long after she's off your insurance.
[quote=Butterfly4u;27945072]Marylee,
You have to take a chill pill.
They are both 15, so you are probably getting upset only because you have 2 teenagers.
But, please relax a little bit.
OMG, I am sure you were a perfect teenager, weren't you?
Just CHOOSE your battles.
You haven't seen anything yet....don't come down so hard on
non life threatening things like this. Your job is to protect them from life threating things now.
Drugs, driving with drunk friends, boyfriends who just got out of jail,
drinking alcohol, staying out all night with people you don't know,
don't fret the small things, and don't be soooo strict that they
want to run away from home because they can't stand their over bearing
mother at home.
You are the adult, you ahve to think and act like one at all times.
Don't withhold neccesary dental care from your child because mommy is
mad and stamping her feet, you sound like a fool. Good luck with your kids, and I hope they can tolerate you not the other way around.[/quote]
So, that's what parenting is about? Pleasing the kids? Geez, I had no idea, see, I thought I was supposed to set rules, limits, etc, and they were supposed to follow. I had no idea parenting was about them tolerating me!
Hmmm...say, do YOU smoke? Oh, of course, smoking isn't "life threatening"
Oh, and I don't "withold necessary dental care" I said if ds doesn't brush his teeth, I'm certainly not making his dental care a priority/ I mean, this kid simply refuses to brush at all---not just skip a few times. Then he gets cavities, and I'm sounding like a fool? Sure, let them smoke, rot out their teeth, pay out the nose for medical/dental care so they can ignore their own part in their health care-----and hope they tolerate me? Oh, where did I go wrong? I thought I set the rules, and yes, I did brush my teeth as a kid! But then, I wasn't raised with the Honey Boo Boo crowd!
Last edited by MaryleeII; 01-25-2013 at 07:51 PM..
Don't bother even trying to get through. The ops goal in life is to make those kids lives sad and miserable. They'll never be good enough or grateful enough for her. I'm so glad they only have 2 years left of their sentence.
I don't see the point in not insuring her. Will the premiums cost more if she smokes? If so, when she turns 18, have her pay the difference. Not paying for insurance at all is pointless. Any health effects she has will happen long down the road, long after she's off your insurance.
Wow, is this thread an eye-opener!
Are you perhaps on Medicaid, or some other govt funded insurance? Yes, the premiums would cost less if we dropped her. We currently pay about $800/month to insure a family of four---that's for medical, dental, vision, prescription drugs. See, you PAY for insurance, at least we do! And, hmmm....how to explain, it costs more to add dependents. Right now, there isn't a higher premium for smokers, but they are looking to do that in the near future. Regardless, I'm NOT paying extra to insure someone so they can smoke and I'm stuck with the medical bills! Let her get a job and insurance and pay for it herself! Smoking is a choice, and the health effects are well-known. They aren't always "long down the road", either.
I know 3 people who are chain smokers and have had heart attacks and strokes. Yet they continue to smoke. I get to pay their medical bills through my taxes, and get to pay for my own insurance, too!
I'm sorry to see that despite years of posting, and multiple suggestions that your family needs counseling far more than internet advice, nothing has changed. I can only surmise that your children will be as happy to leave you at 18, as you will be to see them gone.
Are you perhaps on Medicaid, or some other govt funded insurance? Yes, the premiums would cost less if we dropped her. We currently pay about $800/month to insure a family of four---that's for medical, dental, vision, prescription drugs. See, you PAY for insurance, at least we do! And, hmmm....how to explain, it costs more to add dependents. Right now, there isn't a higher premium for smokers, but they are looking to do that in the near future. Regardless, I'm NOT paying extra to insure someone so they can smoke and I'm stuck with the medical bills! Let her get a job and insurance and pay for it herself! Smoking is a choice, and the health effects are well-known. They aren't always "long down the road", either.
I know 3 people who are chain smokers and have had heart attacks and strokes. Yet they continue to smoke. I get to pay their medical bills through my taxes, and get to pay for my own insurance, too!
See. Shes constantly bitter over the cost of the kids basic needs. I recall something about a cheap shirt. She'd probably drop their insurance for eating chips and drinking Pepsi if there was no smoking.
Wow, is this thread an eye-opener!
Are you perhaps on Medicaid, or some other govt funded insurance? Yes, the premiums would cost less if we dropped her. We currently pay about $800/month to insure a family of four---that's for medical, dental, vision, prescription drugs. See, you PAY for insurance, at least we do! And, hmmm....how to explain, it costs more to add dependents. Right now, there isn't a higher premium for smokers, but they are looking to do that in the near future. Regardless, I'm NOT paying extra to insure someone so they can smoke and I'm stuck with the medical bills! Let her get a job and insurance and pay for it herself! Smoking is a choice, and the health effects are well-known. They aren't always "long down the road", either.
I know 3 people who are chain smokers and have had heart attacks and strokes. Yet they continue to smoke. I get to pay their medical bills through my taxes, and get to pay for my own insurance, too!
That's not what I asked. Would HER premium cost more if she smokes? And how often does insurance ask? My insurance carrier, provided through my employer, hasn't ever asked if any of us smokes. So, you see, my question was completely valid, and in no way deserving of your snark and baseless assumptions. Also, IME once you add on one dependent, you might as well add on 2 or 3 because the cost is the same. So, you see, it might not save you a single dime to drop her, yet she'd be SOL if she got sick or hurt. She might even have to go on medicaid.
I'm sorry to see that despite years of posting, and multiple suggestions that your family needs counseling far more than internet advice, nothing has changed. I can only surmise that your children will be as happy to leave you at 18, as you will be to see them gone.
Oh, yes counseling, to tell my kids they are in charge and I have to fund their existence, however they wish? Ok, let them smoke, I just said I would NOT insure her! Guess you're a smoker who thinks the world owes you medical care?
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Guess you're a smoker who thinks the world owes you medical care?
