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With regards to adoption I think it is wonderful. I wouldn't advise single people adopting babies but rather older kids who would be in the system otherwise. When it comes to giving birth though it really depends. I do think it can be ok when one decides to use a surrogate, sperm, eggs, etc. I don't like the idea of a single woman giving through a pregnancy by herself though but as long as I'm not paying I don't care.
However when it comes to intentionally getting pregnant by a man then yes I have a serious problem. I have heard stories of women who will have sex with a man, getting pregnant, then not telling him. This is extremely immoral. The worst though are the situations where it's a single mom who then goes on welfare, often intentionally getting pregnant for this. Disgusting and highly immoral and ruining society.
I don't think it's wrong but I think it's very, very difficult. At least when you're talking about a true single Mother who is doing it all alone. Divorced isn't the same thing as going through the whole thing by yourself. I have two friends who had a babies on their own. In both cases the grandparents are very involved and provide a lot of help and support. If you're planning to do it alone I think you need either this or enough money to pay for reliable help outside of just regular daycare.
However when it comes to intentionally getting pregnant by a man then yes I have a serious problem. I have heard stories of women who will have sex with a man, getting pregnant, then not telling him. This is extremely immoral. The worst though are the situations where it's a single mom who then goes on welfare, often intentionally getting pregnant for this. Disgusting and highly immoral and ruining society.
Yeah, but what about women who have good jobs, have a supportive network, are mature and stable and want to have a kid? That happens too. So is that a problem too or just people you think are being deceptive or have alterior monetary motives.
Obviously the IDEAL is a two parent home with all possible security associated but it is clearly NOT WRONG to have a child while being single.
As to all the people claiming single parents should only adopt, WTH?? Why would you say such a thing? Children eligible for adoption deserve less than newborns or biological children? Because when you imply that a single parent is good enough to adopt someone who has no other options but NOT good enough to parent a biological child that is exactly what you are saying.
Yeah, but what about women who have good jobs, have a supportive network, are mature and stable and want to have a kid? That happens too. So is that a problem too or just people you think are being deceptive or have alterior monetary motives.
Then they should adopt. I think being deceptive to a man is very wrong. A child needs two parents if possible and in the cases where the woman gets pregnant there is a man who deserves to be involved.
If a single man or woman wants to have a child and uses donor sperm/egg+surrogate to have a child, or adopts a child, is this right?
Do you think this is too unfair to the child,
Yes.
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or do you think the single adult has the right to be a parent under their own terms?
There are SOOOOO many factors. So many possible comparisons. The only thing that matters is the outcome for the child(ren). We can not look into our magic crystal snow balls and know what that is going to be in this general question.
If a single parent wants to have a child, either through adoption or in-vitro, good for them. Being a parent is hard whether you are going at it alone or with a partner. With a partner there is no guarantee that either person will always be around (illness or death) or stick around (divorce). At least starting off alone, you are well aware to know that you will be the sole parent and make adjustments to juggling all the tasks. If someone has a child through adoption or in-vitro is none of my damn business.
As I've posted before, I don't think people realize that a child needs both parents. People need to think before they bring a child in the world, adopt, or any of method of child birth and decide they want to be a single parent. No. Children need both parents in their life.
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