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Hi
question for you all - have any of you had children /child in your 40"s - I had my FIRST and ONLY at 42 and it is great -
My son has no problem with older parents - and we have so much fun in life
I was wondering if anyone else had their children or child later in life and what the pros and cons they felt in this?
I wouldn't change a thing - we were surely blessed....
Hi
question for you all - have any of you had children /child in your 40"s - I had my FIRST and ONLY at 42 and it is great -
My son has no problem with older parents - and we have so much fun in life
I was wondering if anyone else had their children or child later in life and what the pros and cons they felt in this?
I wouldn't change a thing - we were surely blessed....
I think it is great! I don't think that when we were kids and looked at 40 that it is the same thing.
We are healthier now and personally I think that people are more centered and have more financial security, know what is important in life when they wait to have kids. they are also more in tune with their relationship and know each other which is important when those kids come along. Because everything truly does change between couples.
I am a different parent in my 40's I am calmer and the idealistic ideas are pretty much gone as far as kids are concerned as you learn.
I laugh when single friends say
My kids are never going to
not like taking baths, will brush their teeth every night, or will never talk back to me, or will always go to bed on time, or say will not say things to embarrass me in public you soon learn that your kids have their own ideas about how things are going to be. LOL...
Just had our first and only. I am 42 and the wife is 40. Basically it was now or never, but we did not marry until we were 39 and 37 respectively. The pregnancy and birth has been a textbook example of near perfection.
Pros: Well, it was the right time. I was not prepared at any time prior to this. I am a lot more mature (some of my posts notwithstanding) than I was in my 20s or early 30s.
Cons: Not many really. Even if we were 10 years younger, we honestly only want one. Other than that I would only say my tendonitis interferes slightly.
Its all fine, but I would not have pushed the envelope much further.
COngratulations.....
I know what you mean about the tendonitis...
I call my husband and I "late bloomers" - we did it all in our late 30's also and then our son came at 42 - he is a preteen now and we are really having fun - the conversations are quite mature and we find that are concentration is towards him entirely. I can see we never went through the 'baby stage' as much - too tired to coochy coo.... LOL
His freinds like hanging out at our house - because I think we discuss more openly options rather than saying NO and I love to cook for them
so congratulations, enjoy your child ... see you at college graduation - look for my gray hair...
Hi
question for you all - have any of you had children /child in your 40"s - I had my FIRST and ONLY at 42 and it is great -
My son has no problem with older parents - and we have so much fun in life
I was wondering if anyone else had their children or child later in life and what the pros and cons they felt in this?
I wouldn't change a thing - we were surely blessed....
I truly believe God gives you the children you are meant to have when you are meant to have them. So of course you are blessed! Age doesn't define parenting, love does.
I was thinking the same thing. I had kids in my late 20's and can't imagine trying to do all of the baby/toddler stuff now but, if it works for you, great, I am just happy to be able to sleep at night again .
I am a product of a mother who had me when she was 42. Honestly I think she did her very best, but I think she was too set in her ways and overwhelmed to have a great relationship with any of us. She had 5 children in 5 1/2 years so I imagine she was exausted.
I had my boys at 33 and 35 and somedays I regret not starting sooner. But then we wouldnt be in the psoition financially that we wanted to be in.
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I had my second child just before I turned 39 (my first at 24) and took in my GD at 43. Do I get tired? YES! But the trade off is that I have more patience and have a more flexible schedule at work, so more time for the fun things. My DH died at 47... there are no safe bets in life.
I think if someone WANTS to be a parent at any age, it will work out. It's only when one is a reluctant parent that the kids can be adversely affected.
I'm 52 now and I can belong to the parent group, the singles group AND the seniors group at church- all at the same time!
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Who's got the stamina at 40+ 
