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Originally Posted by liloulou
Thank you all again for your postings today. It has really helped me see that I'm not neglecting her and being cruel by not buying into her thought process and guilt trips.
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You could put her in her own wing of the house, hire a lady's maid and serve her breakfast in bed and there would still be problems. From what you've said about her she'll lay a major guilt trip on you when you tell her, "No." That type doesn't want help. They just want to complain.
My dad came to live with us. Luckily we were able to add on to the house to accomodate him. He and my DH were best friends, my kids adored him, and I loved him to bits. And it was still hard. He had to get used to us. We had to get used to him. But we all
wanted it to work. And he was thankful for what we did for him. DH and I were thankful we had him there as a sitter/role model/cool grandad who knew how to fish. Doesn't sound like you would have those dynamics at all.
It HAS to be a two way street. Sounds like she'll just take and take. No. You are not cruel.