Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Hey
It only hit me this year that I'm a Gay Man. And I need your help on how to tell a family which is all in the Church.
I'm just wondering how to tell my family members that I am a Gay Catholic. My Family is very Catholic and some of my family members is in the Church. My Uncle is a Preist so that make it's harder.
Catholic I know it's againist the rules Ive need some advice from the million + memeber on city data.
What's your advice? If you were me then what will you tell them.
Are there any support groups in australia for gay catholics? There are here. Perhaps you could talk to somebody in the same position who could help you learn how to tell your family.
If no support groups for gay catholics I'm sure there are groups for parents of gays there. These are the people to talk to as they have had experience.
Are you still wanting to remain in the the parish? I don't know that that is feasible but then again it depends on your parish.
Technically, we all know how the Catholic church feels about gays. Gays in the church are a particular conundrum for them, so I would prepare myself for being shunned from the parish and likely some of the family to some extent.
If that is something you can live with, then I would suggest finding an alternative church and coming out to your family. and see how the chips fall, as they say.
I've had a number of Catholic friends come out to their very Catholic families, with varying degrees of success, but all of them weren't interested in staying within the Catholic church since the dogma is exclusive and dowright hateful.
I agree with no kudzu about finding support in your area. It's hard for us in other countries to gauge the social outcome in your country.
good luck. I hope that it all works out well for you.
This film was made in the U.S. a few years ago. Sr Jeannine is remarkable in that she continues to 'fight city hall' as in The Vatican, on behalf of Gay Catholics. I saw the film with her in attendance as well as the filmmaker, Barbara Rick and a funder, Deborah Santana. Just powerful; highly recommended.
Be strong. But remember, if the Catholic Church turns its back on you, there are other wonderful Christian communities which will welcome you.
This is a very important lesson in parenting. We, as parents, will no doubt have to learn things about our children we might not want to know. If we can learn how best to react and still keep communication open between child and family, we have learned alot.
And , like it or not, alot of us hear from our kids that they are gay. You might not want to hear that, but there are more gays in the world than we want to admit and they have to have parents too.
I think I would be extremely sad if one of my children had "how to share who I am with my parents" as a challenge. I always hope and pray they know they are loved regardless.
I don't know what I would say, as I am not gay. However, if you are gay they probably do know. Most people know before that person comes out to them. As Catholics, my husband and I would still love our gay children. The Church doesn't hate gays. The Church says that being involved in homosexual intercourse is a mortal sin, just as pre-marital sex is.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
