How do you deal with temper tantrums? (teaching, game, appropriate)
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I remember hearing a story from my mom about how when i was 3 i didn't get something at the store and threw a world class tantrum. She proceeded to ignore me and walk around the next aisle until i stopped and ran to find her. Now i wouldn't do this for obvious safety reasons of which i told her. But how does everyone else deal with the dreaded tantrums. We don't give in to them of course....and first try to laugh at how silly they look. Often this does work for us anyway because they tend ti start laughing too. But if it progresses then it was always time outs in the corner or loss of a privilege.
They are looking for a favorable response and giving in to their actions. Hopefully of getting what they want.
If they get the opposite of what they expect, they will learn that tantrums don't get them what they wanted.
They will eventualy learn honey gets better results than vinegar.
They are looking for a favorable response and giving in to their actions. Hopefully of getting what they want.
If they get the opposite of what they expect, they will learn that tantrums don't get them what they wanted.
They will eventualy learn honey gets better results than vinegar.
I don't know i have some apple cider vinegar in a glass and it does wonder for getting the flies. hehehe
Cut out some stars from pieces of paper. Have your child (or if he is too young, you write) STAR on the front of the STAR and the words Stop, Think and Relax. On the back of the star, have him write or draw a picture of something that makes him happy or calms him down. When he feels an outburst coming on, he can go get a star and do the thing that helps him.
Any technique to help with tantrums basically includes teaching your child self-calming. Becky Bailey teaches breathing to calm down in preschool classes.
In public we only had to leave a store once. It was made clear that such behavior was not appropriate and we would limit our excursions not only to the store but to the park and the ice cream shop should such behavior show up again. We all have to do things we don't want to do...heck, I hate shopping so I certainly understand that kids don't like it but it still must be done. If we can't behave enough to go to the store we aren't going to go anywhere else either.
We tried not to take them out in prime melt down time...when they were tired or hungry or just had too long of a day, etc.
The kids didn't ask for a bunch of stuff but when they did we simply asked them if they had their money to buy it. I let them earn quarters by washing windows & baseboards, folding and putting away laundry, emptying trash cans...whatever little jobs were age appropriate. They never got in the habit of expecting something every time we went out.
Tantrums at home...DS didn't really have many. He gave himself time outs when he felt frustration coming on and he was very verbal so we could communicate more easily. DD was a bit rougher but consistent consequences and addressing the real issue instead of the tantrum seemed to help. We taught them a few calming techniques that I think helped as well.
I remember hearing a story from my mom about how when i was 3 i didn't get something at the store and threw a world class tantrum. She proceeded to ignore me and walk around the next aisle until i stopped and ran to find her. Now i wouldn't do this for obvious safety reasons of which i told her. But how does everyone else deal with the dreaded tantrums. We don't give in to them of course....and first try to laugh at how silly they look. Often this does work for us anyway because they tend ti start laughing too. But if it progresses then it was always time outs in the corner or loss of a privilege.
When we were outside of the house I would remove the child from the public space and let the tantrum run its natural course. At home we just ignored tantrums. When it had run its course I would aks the child "Are you ready to speak nicely to me now?" The tantrums decreased as the kids got more verbal and as they realized that they did not really get what they wanted from the tantrum.
I remember hearing a story from my mom about how when i was 3 i didn't get something at the store and threw a world class tantrum. She proceeded to ignore me and walk around the next aisle until i stopped and ran to find her. Now i wouldn't do this for obvious safety reasons of which i told her. But how does everyone else deal with the dreaded tantrums. We don't give in to them of course....and first try to laugh at how silly they look. Often this does work for us anyway because they tend ti start laughing too. But if it progresses then it was always time outs in the corner or loss of a privilege.
I've done exactly that before. Just walked away! Sometimes I ignore it, sometimes I put them in their room, and on a rare occasion I might wack their butt. It depends on where we are and what the fit is over.
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