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Ever had this happen to you? I have belonged to a certain organization for three and half years, and I was approached by another woman in it for my email address (she gets a lot of funny, clever emails and wanted to pass them along). I was happy to give it to her and then I was told point blank,"Don't expect me to read your responses. I can't respond to every one, blah, blah, blah..."
I was shocked, somewhat. I work a full time job, I'm away from my house ten and a half hours a day. I can't access my email from work, so no harm there. I actually have a boyfriend, make meals, clean my apartment, do laundry, watch TV, talk to other friends and relatives on the phone, go shopping, etc. This woman isn't my whole reason for being. I almost laugh, picturing myself, panting by the computer, waiting for her emails... I understand that giving out your email address is an iffy thing, but I don't waste people's time with chain letters or multilevel marketing stuff or religious content.
Also, I wave and smile at this woman when I see her at the meetings. I've tried to be friendly with her in the past, she's somewhat stand-offish. She's tall, in her late forties, and (I have to laugh a bit) she has long hair and still does that hair flippin' thing with her hair that girls did in high school.
I could see maybe if I hung around her a lot and really made an effort to be her friend it might be overkill, but I don't!
Has this ever happened to you? A simple thing that you're enthusiastic about and happy about suddenly turns not so attractive, and almost repulsive. I guess she made this all about her. I think this incident is kind of why I don't have any close friends currently. Just everyday ocurrences with other women leave me kind of exhausted and wondering why they turn out like they do. By the way, I don't respond to every email I get!
The thing about that is, those that have let you down, they have that power over you for a quick minute. It's really You (or yourself) that wields power over your well-being. You acknowledge your hurt, you vent/talk while it percolates, it simmers down and you drink it up. Oh, sorry I was thinking of coffee now.
But kiddin aside, yeah you allow yourself the feeling of hurt/disappointment/anger/etc, you vent it out, it simmers down and you let it go.
My conditions on emails is if I give you my email address I don't want to recieve jokes, political propaganda, urban legend lies and fabrications ( for which I will research and return to you and anyone else you mass mailed it to the truth ). Speaking of mass mail... don't mass mail my email out to all corners of the world If I wanted my email mass mailed out onto someone spam list I would do it myself. Lastly if I give out my email addy that means I expect you to write me, your friend, a personal note and ask how I am and expect my reply and to read my reply. In otherwords I expect to have a friendly conversation, not just jokes.
Having said that.... apparently people use email as a way to bide time and use the least amount of effort to barely stay in touch with other people. I have a few people at work who "brag" about how many people they have on thier email list. I asked, you actually write all those people? they say 'yes almost daily'... I was amazed until I did more probing and found out they only mass mail (forward) out jokes and crap. Even told them they were lame and all they were doing was a form of legalized spaming. They wanted my email and I just laughed. They think I am being unfriendly and well I guess I am if I don't want to recieve more junk in my emails. I want to actually hear from my friends and learn what is new in there life even if I only hear from them once or twice a year. That is more important then over read jokes/spam.
I've found you can slow down the "friend" spammers by redirecting jokes etc en masse from one friend spammer to another.
For instance my Dad seems to get a lot of pleasure out of forwarding jokes and funny pics to me. **shrug** It's great to get them but sometimes it's too much, then again I'm happy he's found this little way of keeping in touch even if it's not particularly personal. I also have a girlfriend on the other side of the country with the same affliction......SOOOO I just forward Dad's emails to her and her emails to Dad. Works for me.
Now back to this woman....sounds like a notch in the belt type thing for her. Guess you can only see how it goes and if it becomes annoying go with my reciprocal "spam" approach.
She might just have trouble relating to folks and she's worried about appearing rude because she struggles to be personal.
I have had people give me their email address and make it conditional, then again I seem to get asked for my email address far more than I ask for other people's. Maybe that's what has you looking so appealing cricket? You're a chasee, not a chaser?
I've found you can slow down the "friend" spammers by redirecting jokes etc en masse from one friend spammer to another.
For instance my Dad seems to get a lot of pleasure out of forwarding jokes and funny pics to me. **shrug** It's great to get them but sometimes it's too much, then again I'm happy he's found this little way of keeping in touch even if it's not particularly personal. I also have a girlfriend on the other side of the country with the same affliction......SOOOO I just forward Dad's emails to her and her emails to Dad. Works for me.
Now back to this woman....sounds like a notch in the belt type thing for her. Guess you can only see how it goes and if it becomes annoying go with my reciprocal "spam" approach.
She might just have trouble relating to folks and she's worried about appearing rude because she struggles to be personal.
I have had people give me their email address and make it conditional, then again I seem to get asked for my email address far more than I ask for other people's. Maybe that's what has you looking so appealing cricket? You're a chasee, not a chaser?
Good point. I never ask for people's email; I did years ago, and I got the "You might send me a virus" diatribe. People usually ask for mine, and I really haven't had but a few problems: those people were blocked, and then I had an extreme case that necessitated me changing my email address (and it was a woman!).
Thanks for your feedback! Email can be an interesting, yet challenging thing...
I have people who send good stuff to my email, and some who send me totally retarded forwards. They mean well....so I'm not bothered by it. I simply avoid opening the ones I don't want to read.
Good point. I never ask for people's email; I did years ago, and I got the "You might send me a virus" diatribe. People usually ask for mine, and I really haven't had but a few problems: those people were blocked, and then I had an extreme case that necessitated me changing my email address (and it was a woman!).
Yeah, I've had a similar problem (also with a woman) myself.
Most of my email contacts know that I am very slow to get back to them and that I usually just read group and forwarded emails and don't generally reply. That tends to make me a little less interesting to the obessive compulsive type sender. I'm happy to give mine out to most people if they ask and I'm equally good at appearing completely uninteresting as an email contact if their behaviour warrants it.
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Thanks for your feedback! Email can be an interesting, yet challenging thing...
Sure can! Still it's a great way to keep in touch and to pass information around. I've found it invaluable when organizing group events or holidays with people from other countries. You can just make up your travel documents in word and then forward them along, send links to websites, forward travel/accommodation emails...a whole bunch of really convenient things.
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I understand that giving out your email address is an iffy thing, but I don't waste people's time with chain letters or multilevel marketing stuff or religious content.
