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I overheard a coworker talking about a problem he was having with his girlfriend. She apparently snoops around on his computer, cell phone etc. and he knows it. And then she acts distant for a couple days and then she will accuse him of cheating.
Another coworker gave the advice of "Maybe she is cheating since she accuses you of it all the time."
Now, to me.. that sounds kinda cliche... but is that really true?
Insecurity is what I was thinking too.
I will be honest, when I cheated (in past relationships) I never accused them of cheating just because it made me feel better. I just thought that was a weird thing to say to try and comfort someone.
It could be true.......happened to me. I had an ex boyfriend that was extremely jealous, I couldn't even ask a guy what time it was and he would make a scene. I never cheated on him or even thought about it but found out he was cheating on me.
One thing is obvious, something is going on between this guy and his girlfriend. She is doing all of this "checking", and he knows it. Is she finding things that are causing her to accuse him of cheating?? If so, then she should even be with him, unless of course, she has a "mind set" of "this is the best I can get" (for a boyfriend). If that is the case, then she has a real problem. But, if he knows that she is "checking" up on him, it sounds to me like this whole thing is "play time" for them.
After I met my wife, I had an ex-girlfriend that wanted to keep in contact with me (just as a friend).....I told her "sorry, no way". I didn't want any
ex-boyfriends "hanging around" in my wife's life and I wanted to accomodate my wife's wishes for the same from me.
An ex-wife, with ex-husbands children, are one thing, but ex-girlfriends are another.
I'd leave graphic details of the hot and heavy affair I'm not having on my computer and put in specific details and wait for my nosy girlfriend to give me the silent treatment, then start making comments about the fake affair she believes is real. Then I'd wait till she got the rope nice and tight around her neck, reveal the truth, then kick her out.
I think it could go either way. I think that there's a possibility that she doesn't trust him because of something or someone that's hurt her before (remember, we all have something we're insecure about). Also, I think it's possible that she may be doing something herself and that's why she doesn't trust him. Lastly, I think there's a huge, strong possibility that it's the simple fact that nowadays, people get away with too much because of all the technology. Look at what your computer can do, look at what a stupid little cell phone can do, look at all the people who have a couple different cell phones for personal or business use. Text messaging, walkie-talkie capability, you name it. Between that and the media promoting sex every possible chance they get, it's easy to see why there's so much mistrust. However, on the other hand, trust is trust and you can't have a relationship without it, so regardless of the "why", they either need to work on that issue or split...period. In my opinion.
I feel it's more insecurity than anything. I feel when the other party accuses one of cheating when they are in fact doing the cheating, it's not so much out of the blue as it is in response to the other's suspicion on THEM cheating, almost acting as a defense mechanicsm and trying to shift the focus onto the other party. That doesn't seem to be the case here however as the girlfriend's behavior is completely out of the blue and somewhat over the top. Whatever the case may be, she doesn't really sound like a catch. I think there's little excuse for her behavior and he should break it off with her.
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