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Happy Friday, kids! Scroll on down for Today's Tip.
DON'T LET OTHERS' NEGATIVITY GET TO YOU
There is scientific evidence that listening to people complain can impair your brain function. Yikes! A neuroscientific study revealed that the more you listen to negative people, the more negatively you'll act yourself. It can even affect the part of your brain used in problem solving.
Here are three techniques for protecting yourself from others' negativity:
If possible, distance yourself from the complainer. If you're a nonsmoker, you avoid hanging around smokers. Do the same with complainers. Seek the company of more positive people if you have that option.
If you can't walk away from the negative person, try suggesting that the complainer seek a solution to his problem. Ask something like, "So, what are you going to do about it?" The complainer may walk away in a huff, but there's always a chance the he will actually try to solve the problem. Either way, you may at least for the time being be free from listening to the negative talk.
When you feel trapped and can't get away from the complainer, use your own techniques to mentally distance yourself from her. Imagine yourself protected by a force field, or think of something positive while the complainer drones on.
I would add a postscript here - This is not to say that you should not have compassion for friends and loved ones who are going through difficult times and need emotional support. Employ these techniques when you are exposed to negative personality types and constant complainers.
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Beautiful! I'm a firm believer in exercising the brain. That means daily brain games and good grey matter diet with lots of fluid. I've always tried to impart on my kids that listening is one thing but when that guy cuts you off in traffic and you're still complaining having a hernia 20 minutes later...that guy that cut you off isn't even thinking about you. Keep the good stuff and let the negative stuff go.
Relax and enjoy...after all, it's almost Christmas again
I can think of too many owners with brains I would love to impair, and I will follow these priceless tips, every opportunity I get!
Do you ever stop to think, Pam, with your good-hearted intentions and generosity with your time, your tips could fall into the wrong hands? Or the rong, I mean wrong, brain?
I've always been a negative type of person, and will I ever be able to calculate the damage I've done over the years!!! But there are, amazingly, many things I remain very positive about, but when I spout these positive comments/opinions, why do they still run away from me like their shoes are on fire!!!
I was going to reply with a complaint about the thread just to be funny, but thought against it .
I have plenty of people I knew/know that complain every second they get the chance to do it. Since moving and distancing myself from 90% of them, it's helped improve my life tremendously!
These tips are the reason families should avoid all arguing and negativity while sharing a meal. My adult life has always included work in an office and there has always been two or three people who complain at work through email, complain on break, complain in cubicles at every opportunity and go to lunch and complain. When eating lunch in that surrounding my stomach would be instantly on guard. So I made a habit of always eating alone and reading.
Making a living as a therapist has to be a difficult job, keeping all the negative complaining things heard every day from frying the brain. Your post script is spot on. Listening to friends and loved ones about their problems is a kindness but when they go on and on with it then it's whining and complaining when they should be doing something else with their energy.
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A neuroscientific study revealed that the more you listen to negative people, the more negatively you'll act yourself. It can even affect the part of your brain used in problem solving.
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