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I absolutely hate my sister-in-law. She is a controlling high maintenece manipulative woman who completely dominates my brother. I can't stand it. He has turned into this completely spineless creature that caters to her every whim and he has completely lost all personality besides sucking up to her. The thing is, he seems happy to be this way. It's like he enjoys being controlled. She is not controlling in an abusive way, just everything she says goes. He used to like to play on a rec baseball team on Weds nights and Sats. She told him that she didn't like him not home for dinner on Weds and so he quit. She tells him how to dress, how to wear his hair, when he can go out, where they go eat, which friends he can hang out with etc. Do some people like being controlled like this?
I absolutely hate my sister-in-law. She is a controlling high maintenece manipulative woman who completely dominates my brother. I can't stand it. He has turned into this completely spineless creature that caters to her every whim and he has completely lost all personality besides sucking up to her. The thing is, he seems happy to be this way. It's like he enjoys being controlled. She is not controlling in an abusive way, just everything she says goes. He used to like to play on a rec baseball team on Weds nights and Sats. She told him that she didn't like him not home for dinner on Weds and so he quit. She tells him how to dress, how to wear his hair, when he can go out, where they go eat, which friends he can hang out with etc. Do some people like being controlled like this?
Yes!
She is feeding your brother's passivity, and he likes it. Opposites attract.
I absolutely hate my sister-in-law. She is a controlling high maintenece manipulative woman who completely dominates my brother. I can't stand it. He has turned into this completely spineless creature that caters to her every whim and he has completely lost all personality besides sucking up to her. The thing is, he seems happy to be this way. It's like he enjoys being controlled. She is not controlling in an abusive way, just everything she says goes. He used to like to play on a rec baseball team on Weds nights and Sats. She told him that she didn't like him not home for dinner on Weds and so he quit. She tells him how to dress, how to wear his hair, when he can go out, where they go eat, which friends he can hang out with etc. Do some people like being controlled like this?
I was once married to a guy like that. He tried to tell me what to wear, what to eat, what I could/couldn't read, who I could have as friends....NO single people!....what kind of car I could drive, what kind of job I could have and on and on and on. Well, he hated that I wouldn't buckle and do what he said and we divorced after six years. His mother was the same way. I had NO desire to be a Stepford Wife and that, apparently, is what he wanted. AFTER we divorced he admitted he was wrong but, oh well.
MsRiss, perhaps she's doing something "right" that you don't know about.
But seriously, I think there are some passive people in the world. I can think of one lady in particular. It's one thing though to be passively devoted to someone, quite another to be emotionally abused (or worse) as I believe said lady has been in a lot of her relationships.
MsRiss, perhaps she's doing something "right" that you don't know about.
But seriously, I think there are some passive people in the world. I can think of one lady in particular. It's one thing though to be passively devoted to someone, quite another to be emotionally abused (or worse) as I believe said lady has been in a lot of her relationships.
This sounds terrible, but I almost wish she were being abusive because then I could say something. But the way she is, she is just a b****. I have to get over it though, because all you should hope for is that you loved ones are happy and he is. I just miss the way it used to be.
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but he seems happy so I guess if it works for him there is nothing I can do.
