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I have been friends for a long while with this lady. We lost contact for a while but eventually got back in contact. Though it seems as if I am the only one who trys to keep the friendship going. I stay busy with kids and life that I really do not have time for this! Besides we have nothing in common anymore. Do I just let it go and quit trying or keep trying? Thanks!!
You've given us basically no information here. I don't see how anyone can honestly answer this question. All we know is that you are really busy - and in my mind that's usually a poor reason to let a friendship die. You say she doesn't try to keep the friendship going - elaborate on that a little maybe?
I think the longer you've had a friend typically the more its worth trying. Shared childhood memories are worth a lot. You don't say what "a long time" is.
Also as someone who is very sporadic about keeping in touch - I really value those friends that just sort of let it ride till I pick back up and understand that's sort of the way I am.
Maybe just press on with your life and when she contacts you, be open.
I know what you're talking about. There are people who make you do all the work in the relationship. I had a friend like that. I certainly don't believe that friendships are transactional in nature. At the same time, I finally realized that anybody who can't reciprocate in some meaningful way is no friend at all.
Ok sorry for not enough info! Ok we have been friends since kindergarten. I am now 29. I will call her and she never returns my calls or waits months to do so. I live in Louisiana and she lives in Arkansas. When we go to Arkansas to visit family I will call and makes plans to see her. Then when it comes down to it she never shows up! I don't want to be rude but I just do not have time for games. She will send a text every once in awhile to say hi but does not call. When she does answer her phone all we have to talk about is old times. I have kids now and she still lives like back when we were in school. Is this enough info? I hope so cause I do not know what else to say!
Ok sorry for not enough info! Ok we have been friends since kindergarten. I am now 29. I will call her and she never returns my calls or waits months to do so. I live in Louisiana and she lives in Arkansas. When we go to Arkansas to visit family I will call and makes plans to see her. Then when it comes down to it she never shows up! I don't want to be rude but I just do not have time for games. She will send a text every once in awhile to say hi but does not call. When she does answer her phone all we have to talk about is old times. I have kids now and she still lives like back when we were in school. Is this enough info? I hope so cause I do not know what else to say!
Drop her like a bad habit. Either your friendship doesn't mean much to her or your relationship is a one-way street.
You may have answered your own question. You wrote that you don't have much in common any more. It happens. People drift apart as their life goes on.
I wouldn't invest much time it this relationship. If you are into the Christmas card thing (or birthday,etc), a type of one a year contact might be all you need.
I would let it go. If it turns out the friendship IS important to her then you will hear from her, but I suspect you will not.
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