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Only you know what country your parents are in and whether or not jobs are available for them. But they are still rather young, and it would definitely influence your life negatively if you try to support them for the rest of your life. It could even make marriage and a family of your own difficult. If you are positive that they are just being lazy and too proud to work jobs, then maybe you should stop subsidizing them on a monthly basis until they get jobs. Then you could send money for birthdays and holidays to help improve their lives. Good Luck.
Even in the USA, getting a new job after 50 is tough. They will tell you all kinds of things to make sure it doesn't sound like ageism, but it is. Would $100/month help them and not hurt you? My d-i-l sends something to her widowed mother in an Asian country, don't know how much, not my business. You can make it clear that you will pay for all educational expenses, books, tuition, uniforms for your sister.
You are asking one culture to help with a decision that we have no knowledge of . You haven’t shared if you come from a country that reveres or honors parents and the eldest is supposed to help their family, especially if they made sure he got an education so he coukd get a good job.
Only you know what country your parents are in and whether or not jobs are available for them. But they are still rather young, and it would definitely influence your life negatively if you try to support them for the rest of your life. It could even make marriage and a family of your own difficult. If you are positive that they are just being lazy and too proud to work jobs, then maybe you should stop subsidizing them on a monthly basis until they get jobs. Then you could send money for birthdays and holidays to help improve their lives. Good Luck.
I don't know the typical life expectancy in your parents country. If they were in America could you afford to support them 100% for the next thirty to forty years? Yes, that may mean that you can't afford to get married and/or can't afford to have children. Is that fair to you?
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Originally Posted by Spuggy
You are asking one culture to help with a decision that we have no knowledge of . You haven’t shared if you come from a country that reveres or honors parents and the eldest is supposed to help their family, especially if they made sure he got an education so he coukd get a good job.
It sounds like they're not super responsible or realistic about money, which may mean that just handing them cash is enabling rather than helping. OTOH it also sounds like times may be genuinely tight. Could you instead directly pick up all or part of a particular major expense for them, like house payments?
If you are well off, and your parents need some financial help, just send them money, what you see as reasonable. It is normal to send back money to parents in another country. So many people do this. Maybe you can coordinate a small scale business, where your parents can support themselves again.
I love it when people want advice but they are vague. We have no idea what country you are speaking of. There are many cultures where it is common to take care of parents.
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