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You can be friends with whomever you want to be friends with. I certainly wouldn't give up a 10 year friendship with his ex and her family just because he doesn't like it.
Maybe he thinks the two of you are badmouthing him when you're together. If that's the case then I'd assure him you have better things to talk about .
My late uncle was married to his first wife for eight years. They had dated all through high school, got married when he graduated and joined the Navy, they have a daughter. They divorced when their kid was five or six, and she's 42, now. My aunt has always, in the intervening decades, been part of the family.Both she and my uncle went on to remarry. Not everyone is super tight with her, but she's my cousin's mom, and still part of the family.
This is kind of like what my mother told my ex wife right after the divorce. She divorced me. She didn't divorce my mother. My mother told her she was more then welcome to visit any time. Can see that working with you and his ex.
My brother's wife had little family of her own. After they divorced (about 20 years) she continued to come to family gatherings. She's very much a part of the family, as are the kids she had before their marriage.
My husband's first wife's family continued to invite him to gatherings, and always included me. We attended birthday parties for her grandmother, and even a family reunion. Everyone was very kind. Of course, it being a small town, our families had all known one another forever ...
I've dined in my first husband's home, and vice versa: with an adult child who was home on leave from military, sometimes that was the only way we could all see him. And we've done it just because it was handy — we all just happen to live in the big city/metropolitan area now.
It's a much more pleasant life to care for one another than to spew venom.
This is kind of like what my mother told my ex wife right after the divorce. She divorced me. She didn't divorce my mother. My mother told her she was more then welcome to visit any time. Can see that working with you and his ex.
OK now that's a head scratcher for me. MY husbands ex- wife just assumed she would still be welcome by his family but his mother wasn't having it- her position was she treated her son so badly how could she possibly assume she would still be welcome? She was civil to her of course for the sake of her grandchildren- but "more than welcome to visit any time" ? nupe. But then I'm sure all situations are different.
I have my brother's ex wife on my FB list because, in spite of the fact that she left him, she still is the mother of my 2 nephews, so she will be posting photos of them and such.
Oh I can't think why they broke up :eye roll:. He sounds like a paranoid control freak who can't stand to see others happy. Give him a wide berth, and honestly, you might want to keep her at arms length too, not because you've done anything wrong but because it sounds like she might have a bit of a screw loose too and you don't need to be dragged into it. If she's a good friend, she'll understand why you don't want to get too involved.
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