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If you have a house guest, why on earth would you leave your laundry laying on any furniture?
You asked the guest how many creamers for their coffee and then you didn't give them what they replied with. Some host! Why bother asking if you didn't want to bother giving the person 2 creamers instead of 1?
First world problems! Sounds like you shouldn't have guests.
If you have a house guest, why on earth would you leave your laundry laying on any furniture?
You asked the guest how many creamers for their coffee and then you didn't give them what they replied with. Some host! Why bother asking if you didn't want to bother giving the person 2 creamers instead of 1?
First world problems! Sounds like you shouldn't have guests.
In fact, she did. She just didn't put the second creamer's-worth into the coffee, because the mug was too full. She gave it to him in a separate container along with the coffee. That's an absurd thing to quibble about. The fact that he actually berated her for it says a lot about his character. I don't know why the OP continues to put up with the guy.
You sound like someone who has trouble talking about and setting limits and boundaries (which is one of the reasons he doesn't know that you have no interest in becoming romantically involved with him). The problem with this is that you end up feeling resentful towards people who don't meet your expectations, even though you have never told them what those expectations are.
Learn to set your boundaries in a firm manner and these kinds of problems will mostly go away.
This sounds right on. OP, you need to develop some assertiveness. But this friendship or whatever it is doesn't seem to be working out for you anyway. He's disrespectful of you in more ways than one.
Reading the OP I initially thought "what kind of host is she? Fridge is bare, dishes aren't done if only one cup is clean, and her laundry is piled all over". But as the thread has gone on, it's the term "guest" that is incorrect. He's not a guest, he's a mooch, a user, an intruder. The easiest thing is to keep your door locked, don't respond when he's messaging at midnight, and invite him over when you want him there.
Even better, she should call him and say that she's changed her personal schedule, so she's no longer available after midnight. If he'd like to get together on his day off (if she's interested in that), he can let her know when and where.
Then lock the door, or change the lock if he has a key, and follow the rest of your suggestions. But this is a friendship that's outlived its usefulness to her, if it ever had any, unless there's something the OP isn't telling us.
I think it's pretty clear, the OP has full cable including Showtime.
The OP didn't answer but I asked does he have cable at home, I think the answer is no.
I really think if the OP said she canceled her cable due to cost he wouldn't be dropping by so much.
Interesting idea. Could be worth a try. There's nothing much on cable anyway, unless you have a more expensive subscription--if she cancelled her cable for real, she might not miss it.
In fact, she did. She just didn't put the second creamer's-worth into the coffee, because the mug was too full. She gave it to him in a separate container along with the coffee. That's an absurd thing to quibble about. The fact that he actually berated her for it says a lot about his character. I don't know why the OP continues to put up with the guy.
She asked how many he wanted for his coffee. Normally, this means a person wants the creamers IN the coffee. What good is it in a container NEXT to the coffee? If she can't make a cup of coffee the someone asks, then she shouldn't ask someone how they want their coffee. I can see why he would be annoyed. Why ask if you're not going to do it?
She asked how many he wanted for his coffee. Normally, this means a person wants the creamers IN the coffee. What good is it in a container NEXT to the coffee? If she can't make a cup of coffee the someone asks, then she shouldn't ask someone how they want their coffee. I can see why he would be annoyed. Why ask if you're not going to do it?
Why is this a bigger deal to you than the fact that he invites himself over at midnight?
The creamer thing is FUNNY. It is really getting a lot of attention.
If I only put one in and didn't bring him a bowl-full that would be weird and rude.
I explained why I only put one in.
With a bowl full given along with the coffee there is no reason to complain.
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