County Clerk/City Hall/Courthouse wedding. Had one/been to one? Care to share your experience? (wife, father)
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Both me and my SO are 30, we are two Financial Independent adults both are Single/Unmarried, No kids. Morally there is nothing wrong with us being together, our only sin was he is not Chinese. My rigid Chinese parents disapprove him, refuse to show up, refuse to give us their blessing.
But we are getting married, due to the strain relationship between me and my parents. I decide to make it simple, he agrees.
It going to be the City Hall/Courthouse wedding to get our “marriage certificate”. His mother and my brother will be our witness.
No engagement ring, No wedding reception, No honeymoon. We both be back to our own full time job working the next day.
So I was wondering, anyone here had a Courthouse wedding, had witness or experienced attending a Courthouse/City Hall wedding before? Can you share how it is like? What is the atmostphere like, what is like inside the courthouse? This is the first marriage for both of us. And I myself never been to any Courthouse wedding.
Don't let your family's disapproval keep you from celebrating your marriage the way you want to. Don't have a courthouse wedding if that's not truly what you want for yourself.
Well, since I'm asking people to share their 'experience' of attending a Courthouse wedding or witness one, or had one. So it would be under Non-Romantic Relationship.
I don't know why he keeps want to make it legal. I see no reason to rush.
We both are U.S citizen, he born here, my whole family immigrant to USA when I was 12
I'm 30 this year, maybe it time to get married. Being Asian sure helps me look younger than my age, but I'm not young anymore.
We pretty much live together, eat sleep in the same bed. I cook, I clean, I give him sex. So he already got me as his wife without the ‘legal’ marriage.
I don't know why he so keen on make it legal, when he already got me for sex, cooking and cleaning for free without the string attach of ‘marriage’
So what the point of rush into marriage? When we already together like a marriage couple.
It is him that keep pressing on get the "marriage certificate", he keeps bringing this up unless I go down to the courthouse with him.
Two reasons why I choose the simple and quick Courthouse solution. One is my parents disapprove him due to the solely reason he is not Chinese, they won't show up to give their blessing anyways.
Other reason is that his job is busy, he works a 12-14 hours shift, 5-6 days a week, depend on his work load. So it be best that we just go to the Courthouse and be quick.
LOL to the anonymous person that give me the reputation point, asking the ethnicity of my SO
Yes, he is
Odd couple right? What are the chances of a guy with his ethnicity fallen for an Asian girl,
we are in the minority of the minority.
Anyways, back to topic. Anyone have attend a Courthouse wedding, witness one, or had one in the past. Please share your experience, I wanna hear how it is like, the ceremony, the atmostphere, etc...
I told him that “If his heart is with me, then I don’t even need a marriage’. I don't need a wedding. I don’t need the official “wife” title.
But it is him that so keen on get the "marriage certificate", he keeps bring this up, so I might as well let him have it his ways.
At first I didn't think being 'legally married' was that important. But with the strain situation regarding my parents disapproval us together, it better off if we legally married.
Here in Los Angeles where I live, we have car accidents/drunk driving on freeway everyday.
Not saying I'm hoping I'm going to get into car accident while driving. But things like this is possible especially the crowded population on the Los Angeles freeway.
If I get into car accident or sick, or end up in the hospital. Legally by laws, as a 'husband', he can come visit me, or make medical decissions for me.
If we NOT married, he might not even be able to visit me in the hospital. Instead my parents will be the ones in the hospital looks to after me, and make all the medical decisions.
And if my parents tell the hospital to NOT let him visit, the hospital will not let him visit.
And with how my mother disapproval attitude against him, she will not let him visit me.
And tax here in California is very high for single/unmarried people. I know because my bi-weekly paycheck, I get deduct alot in tax due to I'm unmarried. Filing married joint is a much lower tax rate.
Well, these are two beneficial points that I can think of if we married.
And tax here in California is very high for single/unmarried people. I know because my bi-weekly paycheck, I get deduct alot in tax due to I'm unmarried. Filing married joint is a much lower tax rate.
Well, these are two beneficial points that I can think of if we married.
These ^^^ are two different kinds of tax situations.
I have seen a courthouse wedding. It is ... interesting.
There were a few couples getting married, and how "fun" it is depends on the person doing the ceremony. What I remember about the one I saw was that there were a few couples who just decided to "come as you are" and not make a big deal out of it, and some who dressed in wedding attire. Most just dressed up like in a suit and nice dress.
There were a LOT of people around, court workers coming in and out, etc. I do remember that we passed lots of state troopers since court is held in the same building, and one was escorting a person in handcuffs.
It was very quick and businesslike.
I have to admit that I don't understand your approach to this scenario with your BF. I've read all your posts, and you first came here because you had intimacy issues, in that you were almost embarrassed to be sexual with him.
Then you mentioned his hood friends that he somehow is not influenced by, and then you didn't even care if you got divorced and walked away with nothing after helping pay for a house. Now it doesn't even sound like you want to get married.
Figure that ^^^ out first, and then go from there.
At our county courthouse, there's this elderly preacher known as the Marryin' Man (The apostrophe is important, people). When couples get their marriage licenses, he offers to marry them for a small consideration.
When we got our marriage license, he approached us and I thought of taking him up on it. "Only if you want my father to kill you," was MrsCPG'S reply. The plans were just too far gone.
I grew up in a small town in which most people were acquainted with the Mayor. My next door neighbors were both divorced and decided to get married in a civil ceremony in their yard. The Mayor came and married them, then they had a big outdoor party for their families and all us neighbors.
Probably the least annoying wedding I've ever been to. No driving, no seating charts, no annoying DJ and chicken dance and electric slide. We dressed nicely, but didn't have to "dress up." If I got bored or annoyed by the crowd, I could go back to my own house for a break.
This might be another option for you, instead of being "in" the courthouse.
Last edited by Tracysherm; 02-04-2015 at 10:12 AM..
Courthouses (in our area) are only open M-F, so if your SO works all the time might make it tough. You make an app't, judge says the legal words, ya sign papers. Best to bring your own witnesses (they need to sign papers also) so you don't have to deal with finding someone to do that
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