Employed friend harassing me about a job non-stop

[Marlow]

She doesn't sound like much of a friend if you're afraid she'll retaliate.

[jrsydevil82]

I would cut communication with this woman, especially if she is going after the same jobs as you, and using your name when you don't actually permit her to. Then go to HR & make it clear you did not refer this woman.

[Sabinerose]

I have the "phyco" friend also (not really even sure I would call her a friend). I got her a job at the place I worked a few years ago. Despite my best efforts, I got reprimanded several times for her behavior that they assumed I was doing also...for no other reason than we were friends. She got fired and I quit under pressure.

Fast forward a few years and I have a job I love - and she is unemployed. Guess who is calling and trying to pressure me to get her a job? She came in a filled out an application and I went right behind her to our HR gal and told her that this woman wouldn't be a good fit and I would prefer she not be hired. Our HR lady thanked me for being honest and shredded her application while I was standing in her office. She said they much prefer to know than to rock the boat by adding someone who is a bad fit to the crew.

I never / will never tell my "friend" I did that, and I don't feel the least bit bad about it either.

[new_job1]

She emailed me again today asking again about the job, multiple questions about how I spend my day, my time. I replied back to her and then called and spoke with her and told her I was concerned that she was focusing her job search too much on just one company. I also told her that I could not help her any more with her job search. She did get angry. She started ranting about why she was qualified for the job.

I told her she didn't have to convince me that she was qualified, that she submitted her application and there was nothing more I could do to help. She went on about how she just thought I would tell my employer that she wanted the job.

The conversation did not end well, but I at least made it clear by repeating myself more than once that there was nothing more I could do to help her. I did tell her that she has the tendency to get angry with her employers if things don't go her way, and that this time, I would not be pulled into any of her complaints.

I doubt she will ask me again about this particular job. I will now try to do the fade out with her.

[Easybreezy]

That took courage on your part. Good for you! Many people are qualified for a particular job, doesn't make you the only one qualified.

Hopefully, you will be able to let her just drift away. Ignore her emails/calls.

[cheryjohns]

Wow - she sounds like a nightmare employee.

BTW, I assume EVERONE who applies wants the job. Amusing that she thought that was some sort of qualifier. Maybe HR didn't understand she WANTS it and hates to be denied.