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I don't mean to tell you what to do, but if you commit suicide, your family will not get any life insurance (if you have any). Just a thought.
I think when it comes to terminal cancer, maybe more people decide the "when" it ends than people realize. A doctor prescribes pain killers, the patient is told to take 1 pill if the pain gets bad, no more than 2. So the patient takes 4 or 5 and no one ever is the wiser -- was it an accidental overdose because the pain was so bad? Or the patient forgot he already took some? Or did the patient decide it was time to go?
I would never suggest suicide -- never. But then I've never had a terminal disease and realized it was going to happen anyhow. I don't know when it's very close to the time either way if someone should decide to pick the time or move it up a little.
A few months later they got the call she had died of cancer. Most likely she knew when they had spent that last time they spent with her. Probably that was her way of saying goodbye -- but without tears and sadness, just a nice time.
My grandmother didn't tell anyone. She didn't want people acting differently around her. She wanted to enjoy her last months.
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Originally Posted by malamute
I think when it comes to terminal cancer, maybe more people decide the "when" it ends than people realize. A doctor prescribes pain killers, the patient is told to take 1 pill if the pain gets bad, no more than 2. So the patient takes 4 or 5 and no one ever is the wiser -- was it an accidental overdose because the pain was so bad? Or the patient forgot he already took some? Or did the patient decide it was time to go?
Since the OP is planning to leave many goodbye letters to everyone, the coroner will say it's suicide instead of accidental overdose.
At one point during his colon cancer my husband stopped eating and said that he wanted to die. Should I have let him do that? Well, I suspected that it was just a temporary reaction so I took him to the hospital and continued to insist that he eat. If he had given in to this very temporary urge not to fight his cancer he would not be around today. He would have missed so much. He would have missed seeing his son receive his Doctorate, get married & have a child. He would have missed several years of time with his mother before she died. He would have missed all these years, and many more, with his loving wife.
it is eight years later and my husband can't even remember any of the temporary pain and problems while he was fighting his cancer. He is absolutely, 100%, totally shocked that he even considered "giving up, stopping eating and dying" (as he is vehemently opposed to suicide & believes that he would go to hell if he did that). If his doctors and medical records would not have confirmed it he probably would not even believe me that it happened. He is happy that I stopped him as he said that he must not have been thinking clearly at the time.
My point is: don't rush in and use suicide as a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Perhaps, it would be a choice for you, much farther down the line, but just don't rush into it ---- especially at your very young age.
It's best to never give up hope.
I wonder if it's really suicide though if death is very imminent and someone just decides to go with it.
How exactly do you decide when it's time to check out? You could get some treatment and be fine for years unless you have one of the incurable forms of cancer. I've seen first hand what a bi tch that was for someone to live with. I admit, that's not something I would go through myself. I would just go enjoy the good days I have left!
Some people with cancer don't go slowly go down hill. There are people who seem fine until one day poof they go down like a rock. So how do you know when it's time to leave?
What an AWFUL thing to do to a FRIEND!!!! That image is something that friend will have to live with until they die. That is rather rude of you to put on someone without any warning! Very cold, heartless, and insensitive. Sounds like you have ice running through your veins.
Avant7,
I'm sad to hear your story, particularly this part,*"I don't know if I should tell them about the disease or if it'll be easier if they find it all once I'm already dead."
If you tell your friends and family nothing before ending your life, they will be left with nagging questions and no answers. If you love them, is that what you want to leave them with?
For me cancer has been a wake up call.. Not one I chose or wanted, but it has forced me to face what is not going well in my life and then decide what to do about it.
I never wanted to throw my hands in the air and quit though. That is what makes me sad.
It is possible to recover from colon cancer, but you do not want to recover.
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