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Why is it that you feel such a need to curry favor from a dysfunctional family?
I'm not currying favor. I certainly don't want anything from them. I think that it's my guilt that is hooking me, feeling like somehow I "owe" my friend because she "needs" me. On some level I recognize that's not healthy.
I was thinking today about the pattern I have witnessed in my life among addicts and the people they're surrounded by. I don't understand why, if you supposedly love someone, you would let them continue to destroy themselves and even enable their behavior. I know it's hard to bring the subject up to an addict; it was hard to confront my friend about it. But I still did it.
It's like the family drunk who is a riot at parties. Yes, they're funny and they liven a party up, but does anyone even care what's behind that behavior? People just look the other way and ignore the fact that this person is demolishing their life.
I just don't understand people who can ignore reality even when it's right in their face.
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