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As most others have said, go on your trip and have a wonderful time. I'd send a gift for the shower and see if you can pick up something fun on your vacation for the baby on your trip.
I had to miss one of my truly best friend's weddings because I had agreed to act as godmother to another friend's baby and the christening was on the same day as the wedding. I hated calling her to tell her, but felt like I didn't have a choice. It didn't affect our friendship at all.
Well she obviously isn't your "best friend"! Otherwise you would move "heaven" and " Earth" to attend her "baby shower"!
Do you value her friendship? Because it sounds like you don't. I wouldn't pay you to have a friend like you! A d
ime a dozen.
I have a feeling being your friend entails quite a bit of work.
So basically taking a Vacation is more important than celebrating a "friend's shower to celebrate that child's life? Got it!
What? So you can't celebrate a child's live without attending a gift-giving event? Ah... the nauseating smell of entitlement in the morning...blah. I need a bucket.
Take your mother's advice (and go out of your way to thank her for the excellent advice!) and go on your trip. Either send a note to the new mother that you have unbreakable plans, but that you plan on visiting and bringing a gift, or send a nice give with the note and say that you will visit the young one as soon as you can.
One more vote for the vacation and then the visit later...the shower is just a few hours with a group, you really wouldn't be spending much one on one time with her anyway so while it is a nice thought skipping it is not a huge thing.
A further suggestion, send a gift for the shower that way she knows you put some thought into wanting to celebrate with her. Then when you go see her after the baby is born bring something else, perhaps the latter being a more sentimental gift or something for her (or her and hubby) rather than the baby. If you're comfortable with it, perhaps offer to babysit so they can get out or a little indulgent treat they can enjoy on their own time (baked goods, etc.).
I would absolutely go on the trip and send a gift, maybe even pick up something for the baby from wherever you're going. But then I live for vacations and HATE baby showers!
So basically taking a Vacation is more important than celebrating a "friend's shower to celebrate that child's life?
Absolutely. There will be many, many more opportunities to "celebrate the child's life," like once it's actually born, and every birthday, graduation, and other milestone thereafter. Missing one stupid party isn't the end of the world.
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