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Daughter has been known to invite us then take off leaving us with the Kids with out asking.
She does this kind of strange stuff.She has not been to our House in years,we have lived in three different houses.She has been married for years and her husband has never been to our place even though they was within 3 miles of our house for three days.
We moved to a Place in middle of nowhere,she decided she didn't want to move so she left home at 15.
Oh we go to her house several times of year.
She is mad because we are friends with her Dad and his family in Chicago and Iran.Oh she is adopted by me.
Daughter has been known to invite us then take off leaving us with the Kids with out asking.
She does this kind of strange stuff.She has not been to our House in years,we have lived in three different houses.She has been married for years and her husband has never been to our place even though they was within 3 miles of our house for three days.
We moved to a Place in middle of nowhere,she decided she didn't want to move so she left home at 15.
Oh we go to her house several times of year.
She is mad because we are friends with her Dad and his family in Chicago and Iran.Oh she is adopted by me.
brushrunner
Well given all that, sounds like she's using you. Why? I don't know, some people have difficult personalities I suppose but it also sounds like you have a rough and perhaps hurtful history - I'm sure whatever issues there were in the past are in play in the present.
No I was just wondering why some kids can't do something for you with out having alternative motive?
brushrunner
brushrunner, I am sorry you are facing surgery.
Best of luck and I hope you feel better real soon
You already know you have a strained and strange relationship with this daughter that goes WAY back to when she was a teenager.
You either have to get her to agree to some family counseling so you can sort it all out, or just accept her the way she is and not get your hopes up that she'll never have ulterior motives for doing things with you.
brushrunner, do you not enjoy having your grandkids?..how many are there, if you don't mind my asking?
We enjoy our Grandbabies by her but she has accused my wife for one Granddaughter of dieing from SID's and Granddaughter was no where around us.Daughters Inlaws have more money than us so they are more of a Grandparent than us Daughter lets us know.
She has a Brother living down the road from her,he informed us he never talks with her anymore because it's all about her anymore.
One time she knew months ahead of time she needed Brakes on her Car but she waits until we have feet of snow on the ground.Calls her Mom wanting her to pack Tools a mile out,then drive 40 miles to put Brakes on her Car.My wife refused and asked Daughter why Son in Law didn't do it,that she had showed him how to do it last time? Oh he is going to be out of town and it needs to be inspected in the morning because we need it for a trip.
She was in Mexico,calls us to get her dead Dog and haul it off.Daughter in Law was suppose to have been taking care of it but she wasn't.Well we figured the Dog had only been dead a day most.It had been dead to the point it was rotting But we moved it any way.
We made them all Home Made Christmas Gifts,Daughter throwed them away because they weren't Store Bought.One was a Quilt worth hundreds of dollars.
We have 19 Grandbabies and do all we can to treat them the same.
brushrunner...all I can say is you really got to learn to say no. Only thing I'd be doing for your daughter is loving her kids...being there for them...that's all. I'd flat out refuse to help her with anything else. Just give the little ones what you can that you know your daughter won't throw out, and realize that the best thing you can give them is yourself, and being there for them...when they are older you can give them very special homemade items that you've made for them...It's very kind that you treat your grandchildren the same, it's nice that you love all the children equally.
Country Girl that don't pay to have anything done.Works on anything mechanical,electrical,plumbing and carpentry.Oh she butchers too.
brushrunner
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But we moved it any way.
